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I just found out the other day that my boyfriend watches porn. We've been dating 2 1/2 yrs and have been living together for 10 months. I knew he used to watch porn before we were dating and he always talked about it in the past tense. In recent months, we've seemed to have drifted apart and our sex life dwindled. We've both blamed this on stress and working many hours. In a sad way, we've been too tired for sex. Then I logged on to the computer the other night and he had forgotten to clear the search history in the computer. I was shocked. Upset. I went to him about it. He told me it has nothing to do with me and that he'd stop. I just wish he had been honest about it in the first place. It has affected our relationship...I'm still trying to figure out how I feel about it. Logically, I know it doesn't really have anything to do with me, but at the same time I kind of feel betrayed. And I wonder if that's why he's been distant lately. He tells me that's not why..that its just stress about other things. I'm confused about how I feel. I haven't brought it up since and I think he probably assumes I've forgotten about it, but I haven't. He's always been honest that he masturbates and that's fine. I just don't know if I'm comfortable with other women turning him on. And I'm too embarassed to talk to any of my friends about it. I might be open to watching it -- not just naked girls though -- but I never really thought of it before. I think that mostly I'm just hurt that he deliberately never told me until I found it on the computer and then at first, he tried to deny it. I thought our relationship was really based on honesty. Maybe I'm naive. And I'm also really upset that maybe our relationship is in worse shape than I thought if he's looking at porn and lying about it. Really, I have so many emotions about it that I'm not sure how I feel. I really appreciate all the feedback on this site..its helping me really think about how I feel.”

I am 15 and I am gay. At first I thought it would be hard to tell my mum because of my religion but my mum just accepted it and got on with her life. But I told my friend many months before telling my mum as it makes it easier to handle.”

I have also never had an orgasm and sometimes I do feel like I'm missing out on the best part of sex. However I have just started a new relationship with a guy I really like and trust and the sex with him is much better than I have ever had before -hopefully this is the answer! However I also heard that most women don't orgasm through penetration, most do through oral sex or being fingered. A vibrator also makes most women orgasm - I hope that helps!”

I'm a 17 year old virgin and I'm happy I've waited. I've been with my current boyfriend for 10 months and he understands, he's older and more experienced but realises that I'm not ready and I love him for that. I decided to wait for the right guy now I'm just waiting for the right time. My boyfriend has told me he'd wait forever. Whenever I'm ready. I'm glad about that. I don't think anyone should feel pressured into it and should wait untill they feel the time, place and person feels right. Thats what I'll be doing and i'm happy.”

As a circumcised man in the UK, I have been teased and sniggered at and told how inferior my sex life must be – for something that was done to me when I was 10 months old.

Boys who have tight foreskins that are still elastic can now be helped by creams and stretching but those with foreskins that are inelastic and scarred by infection and fibrosis are more of a problem and can be made worse by stretching and surgery is an option if your lifestyle is affected.

Just for the record I was born with an extremely tight foreskin and had repeated infections that made my foreskin so tight that urinating was difficult and painful – my father told me that could not leave me like that as I was in agony.

Those of you that are lucky enough to have a foreskin can try clamping it when they urgently need a pee to see how it felt.

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I happen to have a thing about ginger guys, my boyfriend is ginger and I love it, my best mate is also ginger and has a girlfriend who he has been with a long time. You have no need to worry in the slightest, plus they won't just like you for the colour of your hair :)”

I am a 26 year old female and I have had 4 sexual partners in my life, all in long term relationships. I lost my virginity at 19 (although many of my friends lost theirs at around 14 - I decided at a young age to hold out for someone I truly cared about and didn't feel the peer pressure or need to "just get it over and done with asap" despite plenty of opportunity, I would strongly advise this approach). I am surprised at the varying amounts of sexual partners young people have had and would urge you all that there is no rush to have sex and from my experience, sex is more fulfilling and enjoyable with a person whom you are in a loving and caring relationship. Also, please do practice safe sex!”

I'm 23 years old, and have big lips. I have been with a good number of partners from high school up until this point in my life. I have always worried about it a little bit, but never let it stop me from feeling good about myself, or wondered if a guy would be excepting of it or not. Only because never, not once has a single guy ever said anything bad to me about it, and in all the relationships I have been in all those guys loved it! I just recently started a new relationship about 4 months ago, and moved in with the guy about 2 months ago. Once we started getting closer he brought up the subject, but said that he was just thrown off guard by it, because he had never had a woman with that before, but also said how he liked it, and it felt completly different then other girls, and was way more enjoyable! I guess what I really want to say is. I have had no problem finding guys that are not just excepting of it, but also enjoy it! So in my opinion I would much rather find a good guy that sees me for who I am, and loves me for everything I am from head to toe, and inside and out, and be able to have as much fun in the bedroom as we possibly can. Letting the sky be the limit! Then to go out and pay thousands of dollars on a surgery that will scar me for life, and possibly ruin my sex life, for the rest of my life.”

I am male 63 years old. I have had 6 sexual partners in my life. If my wife and I had not have been divorced 20 years ago, she would have been the only one. There is nothing in this world like making love to someone you love with all your heart. I feel desperately sorry for these very sad young people on here, who have posted some extraordinary claims. i.e. 16 years and 10 sexual partners etc. They will never experience the joy that sex can bring and they will regret their mindless behaviour for the rest of their lives. Or perhaps they won't, because they don't know any better.”

I'm 18 and have never been in a relationship. I have had sex with 4 guys. The guy I lost my virginity to was a friend and we became friends with benefits... Sex was good but... The best sex I had was with a guy I really liked and he liked me... it was just lovely!”