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I'm 16 and lost my virginity 10 months ago with a boy i loved. I also thought I was ready, although my boyfriend didn't force me I still regret it very much as I was not ready. You're 14 yrs old and your boyfriend is 19 thats 5 yrs difference, your too young to be in a relationship like this. I REALLY regret losing my virginity and really wish I had waited longer, there are plenty of guys your age who will be happy to be with you and not force you into sex, not only is it wrong to force someone to have sex, it is also illegal to have sex with someone underage. Please don't do it and if this man touches you in any way please inform someone and end it fast before it goes any further, all the best, hope everything gose well.”

I'm circumcised and love it. It is cleaner, looks better and it feels great during sex. I'm 18 and at college now and haven't found any girls who have a problem with it. Out of over 30 girls I've slept with this term less than 5 have even commented on it and most of them said it was nicer. I think every boy should be circumcised.”

My boyfriend has watched porn in the past, but when I met him I told him I didn't agree with guys watching porn if their in a relationship because it's not fair on the partner, because basically he's getting off on another woman! I hate it! When we got together, I said to him that if he wanted to be with me, I would want him to stop watching porn and he did. Instead I said that I'd pleasure him in any way he'd like, in other words, I'd be his 'pornstar' so he wouldn't need the internet. Our sex life is great! Another thing that does really affect him if I ever think he might be watching porn is say: 'If I ever find out, and you know I don't like it, I'll become a porn star myself so other guys can see me..' Then he gets angry and would never want to watch it just to have me :)”

I'm 13 years old, and I don't know whether my penis size is big enough. The lads at school talk about the size of theirs a lot and say theirs is around 6 inches. I don't know whether they're saying that to impress each other but mine isnt that big...I just want it to hurry up and grow..When will it do this? I've hit puberty and just want it to be bigger.”

This used to happen to my boyfriend regularly, due to the fact that he suffered from anxiety and depression and he was very nervous the first few times we tried.
If you're not comfortable with the girl, you may be going floppy due to nerves. This is all in your head and if you overcome the nervousness you'll be able to stay hard. You may also not be confident, which is called performance anxiety, so if that's what's the problem then your girlfriend should be very supportive and encouraging and show you that she loves you and make you feel good about yourself and sex.
These are the only two explanations I can think of right now. There isn't a physical problem if you can get hard before sex and by yourself, it is just a mental problem. Just breathe, be calm, make sure your girlfriend is supportive and helpful and in time you'll overcome this problem.”

I started noticing girls when I was about 12. I never told anyone how I felt because I constantly thought that I would get teased by my friends and other kids for it. I am bisexual and it's only been about 18 months since I've become confident enough to tell people. The first person I told was my ex boyfriend, and it did take me a while to get myself to say it. He was supportive, and I am so glad he was the first person I told because he was so trusting. I think as time went by, I realised who I could trust and only told another 3 people. I felt at ease at the fact that they were supportive. After that, I told my main group of friends. Most of them didn't really say much and were fine with it. Some on the other hand would make comments between each other, in front of people and in front of me. I became more insecure with people. I didn't trust very easily. I did try not to let them get to me, and I felt like I had drifted from them slightly. I felt comfortable enough to explore my sexuality, and not listen to what they had to say. I have had experiences with girls, but there were a lot of mistakes, and I have lost two very close friends. I feel like that was because they never really accepted me for my sexuality. I have moved on and have been in a relationship for 6 months with a boy. He knows that I am bisexual and he is probably one of the only people I do trust completely. I have had people say "you know, it's just a phase." They can't say that unless they really do feel how I feel. I know this isn't a "phase". I've felt like this for over 6 years. I do have more confidence now and to be honest, people can say what they want to me. I'm not going to let anyone try and put me down because of my sexuality.”

I've been asked to have anal before, he slipped it inside and I couldn't bare it, I went "err your not going there" and laughed it off, not showing that I was uncomfortable with it, I enjoy watching it, but I can't stand it happening to me. Does anyone else feel like this?”

Yes, get it checked out! Your GP will tell you if there really is any cause for worry. I had this problem when I was in my teens, when I started having sex with girls it was embarrassing as I could either get it back, but not release later (painful but got a big end that satisfied) or it stayed over and it was a very dull sensation. Really I should have had it circumcised as a kid. Now I'm 60, most of the issues are minor, but still have a skin problem, too much action creates small, sore abrasions that take days to go away. The Frenum was 'snipped' by a nurse friend, and that helped a lot. At the end of the day, penis hygiene is more important, don’t forget to clean it properly every day, even if you haven’t had sex!”

I'm 16 and I can retract my foreskin all the way when flacid but when erect I have to physicaly pull it back which is sometimes uncomfortable, when I do this is only just goes over the head but is very uncomfortable at this point. When flacid I notice that the around the head at parts it's attached to a small bit of skin. I'm very worried and want to know if this is normal and also if its possible to have sex?”

I honestly don't mind if a girl shaves or not. Hair is natural, so either way, I'm fine with it. My ex never shaved, and i didn't mind in the slightest, it's up to how you feel. No real guy would laugh or make fun of you if you decided to not shave :)”