Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 yrs, but my sex drive has just got lower. He wants to have sex and I don't? I still love him. What's wrong?
I feel EXACTLY the same way. I feel horrible about it. Whenever the issue comes up and we try to talk about it, I can never find the words to describe how I'm feeling. But I do know that I WANT to WANT to have sex more often, and not even for him but also for me...
It's very frustrating and scary.”
I've have had the same problem like most of you girls. I was about 17 when it happened to me.
I'm 22 now and don't have that problem. I started to realise I had to find out what was good for me, and I tried new things. I found out there were some things I haven't tried that I actually liked. I also became more aware of my body and I relaxed more when I was having sex. Basically I stopped thinking while I had sex, and let myself lose control (not on the protection part).
I know what I want and I'm not ashamed or afraid to tell my partner, even if its new. I think it is important you find out what it is good for you. Try to surprise him with sexy lingerie, or tease him and then walk away, make him tease you. Send dirty text messages when your not together. Flirt like you haven't been together forever. Increase the desire you have for each other...”
I think you girls should spice up your sex life ! Something like one can be the student and the other can be the teacher. Fantasize about who you want to be or who you want to have sex with. It is not like you having sex with someone else. Its just pretending and girls, pretending doesn't hurt. Play games ! Let him blindfold you and tie you on the bed. It is really exciting. You girls don't feel like having sex with your guys because maybe he does the same boring thing all the time ! Use sex toys ! Google sex games and find the right one you guys can enjoy ! It really helps.”
I feel exactly the same. I have been with my boyfriend 9 months and my sex drive is really low. He wants to have sex and I don't. Even in foreplay he can't really turn me on or make me orgasm. But then when I am alone...no problems!
I don't want to break up with him because I love him. Is there anything I/We/He can do?”
Yeah im the same too, i dont want to yet and im 14 but my boyfriend is always going on about it. What do i do? its like a common problem i think; and we need help!”
im exactly the same, we've together for over 4 years, and i just never want to. but when im alone i want to. i still find him attractive, so i dont understand what the problem is. someone help us?”
I feel EXACTLY the same way. I feel horrible about it. Whenever the issue comes up and we try to talk about it, I can never find the words to describe how I'm feeling. But I do know that I WANT to WANT to have sex more often, and not even for him but also for me...
It's very frustrating and scary.”
Posted by Danielle on 8th Nov at 7:31AM (flag as inappropriate)
I've have had the same problem like most of you girls. I was about 17 when it happened to me.
I'm 22 now and don't have that problem. I started to realise I had to find out what was good for me, and I tried new things. I found out there were some things I haven't tried that I actually liked. I also became more aware of my body and I relaxed more when I was having sex. Basically I stopped thinking while I had sex, and let myself lose control (not on the protection part).
I know what I want and I'm not ashamed or afraid to tell my partner, even if its new. I think it is important you find out what it is good for you. Try to surprise him with sexy lingerie, or tease him and then walk away, make him tease you. Send dirty text messages when your not together. Flirt like you haven't been together forever. Increase the desire you have for each other...”
Posted by Heidi on 2nd Sep at 8:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
I think you girls should spice up your sex life ! Something like one can be the student and the other can be the teacher. Fantasize about who you want to be or who you want to have sex with. It is not like you having sex with someone else. Its just pretending and girls, pretending doesn't hurt. Play games ! Let him blindfold you and tie you on the bed. It is really exciting. You girls don't feel like having sex with your guys because maybe he does the same boring thing all the time ! Use sex toys ! Google sex games and find the right one you guys can enjoy ! It really helps.”
Posted by Dolly on 1st Sep at 2:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
I feel exactly the same. I have been with my boyfriend 9 months and my sex drive is really low. He wants to have sex and I don't. Even in foreplay he can't really turn me on or make me orgasm. But then when I am alone...no problems!
I don't want to break up with him because I love him. Is there anything I/We/He can do?”
Posted by Rhi on 26th Aug at 1:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
Yeah im the same too, i dont want to yet and im 14 but my boyfriend is always going on about it. What do i do? its like a common problem i think; and we need help!”
Posted by Abbie on 30th Jul at 9:58AM (flag as inappropriate)
im exactly the same, we've together for 2 years and i just never want to. but he does all the time i i love him so i much . someone help us?”PLEASE”
Posted by demi on 22nd Jul at 9:28PM (flag as inappropriate)
im exactly the same, we've together for over 4 years, and i just never want to. but when im alone i want to. i still find him attractive, so i dont understand what the problem is. someone help us?”
Posted by Jay on 8th Jul at 7:50PM (flag as inappropriate)