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Your questions about sex

How can i keep my partner satisfyed in bed? Im female and hes male. Im struggling to find ways to make him happy

  1. Tease him by slowly running your hands down his stomach and down his trousers. Gently touch all around that area but don't actually touch his penis. I do this and it makes my bf get hard in a few seconds! He says it's great so you should try that and see if things like that work.”

    Posted by Sandra on 1st Jun at 2:14PM (flag as inappropriate)

  2. Maybe he could watch your in the shower, try making him wait for you until he feels like hes going to burst!”

    Posted by Jo on 9th Apr at 11:43PM (flag as inappropriate)

  3. dress up is a great idea. or even a strip tease. ive not a great tip, is slow oral sex. whilst givng your partner oral sex do little licks on the side of the penis like a cat lapping milk. then move up to his torso. my boyfriend gets more aroused when things go slow.”

    Posted by Becci on 30th Mar at 10:33PM (flag as inappropriate)

  4. if you have a sexual relationship then im assuming you both are comfortable enough to talk about it (if not then i would seriously reconsider the relationship). me and my partner often have discussions about our sex life and it really helps! for a start, we both love how comfortable we are to tell eachother what we like and even sometimes spend hours in the bedroom just finding out what we like best without rushing in and just having sex straight away. im not sure about other guys, but something my man loves is for me to just go with the flow and just experiment with whatever comes to mind during time in the bedroom. even though i never have understood it, guys really do like confidence!”

    Posted by Hannah on 17th Sep at 4:40PM (flag as inappropriate)

  5. Talk, talk, talk!

    Talk about your fantasies and likings and talk about his fantasies and likings. Don't hesitate and don't hold back. Also there is no obligation to actually perform every fantasy, just do whatever you're happy with.”

    Posted by erik on 10th Sep at 6:59PM (flag as inappropriate)

  6. As others have said, ask him. And... be confident (or try act it at least) men find confidence in the bedroom sexy”

    Posted by Anna on 10th Sep at 3:10PM (flag as inappropriate)

  7. Honestly, the best thing to do is just ask him.
    If you're willing to have a sexual relationship, then the best item for this is to be open with eachother, and know more about eachothers wants.
    Don't ever feel like you have to do something you are not comfortable with to try and make him happy! ”

    Posted by Dheigh on 10th Sep at 12:46AM (flag as inappropriate)

  8. Ask him!

    Don't be afraid to try things out, whilst asking him whether he likes it or not, or ask him outright to tell you what he likes (okay, try not to make it sound too much like a job interview, that won't exactly set the right tone).

    Set aside time to explore each other's bodies (after all, you're entitled to get something out of this too), check every part of each other, see what you both like being kissed, stroked, blown on, nibbled or licked.

    If you're comfortable with it, watch each other masturbate - and really watch to see what the other is doing to bring themselves off.

    Role-play if you're up for it (general rule of thumb - *everything* in sex should only be if you're up for it) - would he like you to be the Naughty Schoolgirl, a Ruined Nun, or Mistress Whiplash? Would you like him to be a Fireman, a King or a bit of rough to your Miss Posh? ”

    Posted by Marc B on 10th Sep at 12:38AM (flag as inappropriate)

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