“...you like them as a person so when they give you a lift home and drop you off and that's it - you feel a bit used…”
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I mean I’ve done it, just kind of to boost myself esteem, but there’s no point because it always drops that further afterwards.”
“...you like them as a person so when they give you a lift home and drop you off and that's it - you feel a bit used…”
“I'd started seeing someone and it's turned out they've just wanted me for sex... ”
“I've been single for a long amount of time and I've said that's it I’m not waiting for the one I'm going out tonight I want to have sex. ”
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I've met this guy at my collage, and he seemed really nice at first, but I had a long term relationship going on at the same time, me and this new guy went out for lunch on several occasions, and we really seemed to hit it off, I had a long term bf at the time, but he said he didn't like the thaught of me being with him whilst we were getting close, so I finished with him, and told him, I asked him to the cinema, and it seems like he's giving me the cold shoulder, but I just don't know why, he said he wanted to go to a party insted, but maybe another time if he feels like it..I'm a virgin, and he's not, so I don't know weather I should just have sex with him to keep him interested for a while, because I think I really like him.... Please someone help!!! - I don't know what to do :( . Emma”
Posted by Kathryn on 19th Jun at 10:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
Rose is completely right. It starts a vicious cycle that its pretty much impossible to get out of. Id say, don't start it to begin with, because theres no looking back!”
Posted by Hannah on 18th Apr at 1:48AM (flag as inappropriate)
I met a guy almost a year ago, he was really hot and really sweet, the first time he walked me hoe he tried to come to bed with me but i prefered to wait. we saw each other for few months and i thought he was lovely, so when he tried to start something i gave in. the next morning he was very cold and left very promptly. I havent heard from him since. I found out that he had been told that i dont sleep around and had bet his friend he could get with me. So yeah... ive been used”
Posted by Holly on 7th Apr at 8:54AM (flag as inappropriate)
i met this really nice lad, we went out for a while and we did quite abit of stuff together, then he decided to tell me it was over and that he didnt love me. the next day he came to me and asked me out again, stupidly i said yes. but we went out for about a week, and did quite abit during that week. but then he dumped me and ever since he has bein coming back for sex. he now has a girlfriend and still he says he wants me because he knows i still like him. what can i do?”
Posted by kirsty on 4th Apr at 9:43AM (flag as inappropriate)
I started a new job a year ago, it was my first bar job and i was single, the first week into it i noticed i was getting some looks from a supervisor who worked with me. A few days later he asked me for my number, so nervously i gave it to him. I wasnt all that interested in him but if it lead to sex i wasnt going to say no. So a few days later i took him back to my house after work and we had sex - it was ok, just a bit of fun. The next time i took him back to mine he was really rough with me, didnt want to kiss me. He was just interested in having anal sex and even though i said no he still persisted and eventually got what he wanted cuz i wanted it to be over as quick as possible. The last time i had sex with him was after a few too many drinks, we went for a quickie in a park, i thought it would be fun and exciting but instead it was painful. Again, didnt want to look me in the face or kiss me, he just wanted pleasure and didnt care about me at all. After it was over he drove me home and when i got out the car i bursted into tears. I was quite upset and angry at myself for a few weeks after and i promised myself i would never do it again. Luckily for me he left work a month later and he doesnt bother me anymore. I am really happy now, i have an amazing boyfriend and all is good. I still cant believe how much of an idiot i was not so long ago. Dont feel pressured into doing something. Dont do it unless you are 100% positive you want to it first.”
Posted by Kirsty on 1st Apr at 11:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
Sometimes having sex too boost your self esteem can be really good though, i mean, i went through a really bad break up with a boy, and i had sex with my best friend as a kind of reboundd esteem boost, and because it was with someone i loved to death it was amazing.”
Posted by sam on 1st Apr at 9:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
There was this guy i really liked, and ive knew him for about a year now, and he asked me to come up to his house and watch a film with him, so i said yes. we where on the bed and he came onto me, so i went along with it. we had sex and he was like "okay dont tell no one, this was only a one off, i have a girlfriend."
i thought he really liked me at the start, but it just shows you what most teenage guys want, sex.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 9:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have been with a few lads who just wanted me for sex. The reason for this is cause i am a single mum and i have found that alot of guys get put off by the fact that a girl has a kid.”
Posted by Kerri on 31st Mar at 2:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
Yes, when I went out with this lad who I really liked, and we got on really well, and I thought it was going somewhere but then I found out he was seeing someone else and had been all the while! I dropped him like a hot potato!!!”
Posted by Angie on 24th Mar at 10:46AM (flag as inappropriate)
I thought i met this amazing lad, he seemed perfect and i loved him very much so. He claimed that he did love me, and being stupid i had sex with him. He then went so cold on me and told me he was getting together with another lass, she was the one etc! Now they are having relationship problems he keeps coming to me for sexual things, and because i still care about him I do and then he goes back to his girlfriend, but least now i have finally learnt!! Never let guys use you!!”
Posted by kerry on 9th Mar at 1:30AM (flag as inappropriate)
I was in a relationship with a guy who told me that he was single. I then found out not only was he in a relationship but his girlfriend was pregnant. I felt really used especially as this was the guy I lost my virginity to and thats something i will never be able to get back! i found out about his girlfriend after we had sex (we only did it once) and i felt so awful because he knew how insecure i was yet he still used me for sex.”
Posted by Aj on 12th Nov at 12:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was gettin used by a lad i thought liked me for bout 2yrs (i cnt say that i dnt use him because i did)! the thing that made it was the fact that i worked with him aswell. so i learned the hard way not 2 mix work wiv fun!!!”
Posted by Sarah on 14th Oct at 7:56PM (flag as inappropriate)