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Ricki answers How did you lose your virginity?

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  1. I think the main reason Parents tell their kids (especially their daughters) to wait until they're with some one they love & make it special etc is to try to keep them from loosing their virginity too young, and to try and encourage them to not make the same mistakes they they themselves made. I lost my virginity at a ridiculously young age and had most of my sexual partners before I reached the age of 17. When I turned 19 I entered into a long term relationship with an older man and the sex I shared with him was quite possibly the best sex I have ever experienced in my life! Not because he was "older and knew what he was doing" because all most all of my sexual partners were at least 10 years older than me, but because he loved and respected me, which in turn encouraged me to love and respect myself. I am still adventurous and open minded when it comes to sex, Im just a lot more choosy with who I sleep with. I do wish I had waited for him, but I no longer regret my choices as I am stronger now for making them...It is a pity though that I had to go through so much grief of making the same mistakes over and over, but I guess that's what happens when you have sex at such a young age - because it does mess with your mind.”

    Posted by Joan on 21st Apr at 8:17AM (flag as inappropriate)

  2. For me it was the same drunkenness! I liked the guy, we had been dating on and off for a while, It wasn't planned but we ended up having sex at an after exams party when i was 16. We didnt even do it in a bed, but that was it first time over and i could just carry on with growing up. I didn't start really enjoying sex till i got into a proper relationship when i was 17, but i don't regret losing my virginity in an unceremonious way. At the end of the day everyone loses their virginity at some point and more often than not, its not the perfect idealised scenario your parents say it should be! Most of my friends tell stories of their first time as something to be laughed at, my first few times were a bit of a disaster but its all in the spirit of growing up and i dont think it should be taken too seriously! just as long as your safe it should be fun, not something to panic over or worry about it! no one gets anything perfect first time!! We live in the real world not in the movies!”

    Posted by [No first name supplied] on 5th Apr at 5:03PM (flag as inappropriate)

  3. im gay aswell and i just wanted to know, how was the experience
    ;-)”

    Posted by john on 4th Apr at 1:20PM (flag as inappropriate)

  4. i lost my virginity at 14 to a boy i thought i was completely in love with, if i had a chance to change it i would think before you rush into things he might not be the one for you after all”

    Posted by jessica on 1st Apr at 9:38PM (flag as inappropriate)

  5. I understand what Shantelle meant in her video when she left straight after sex. When I first kissed and touched a girl we just went downstairs and watched 'Gavin and Stacey' without talking- just coming to terms with it and realising that it wasn't just a fantasy, which was sobering but still quite exciting.”

    Posted by Edward on 31st Mar at 1:02PM (flag as inappropriate)

  6. About a week ago my friends and I would talk about anything and i felt so, so grown-up. this website hasn't shocked or scared me but it has gently shown me the facts and like i said, i'm not scared, just wiser and more understanding. Loads of my questions have been answered, and I also really think I know much better than before how a girl might feel. i have a lot more respect for that. Thankyou.”

    Posted by Edward on 31st Mar at 12:58PM (flag as inappropriate)

I had one too many Alco pops and went back to his place…”

Ricki, 26

Sex facts

  • A survey of teenagers found that 20% of men and 13% of women aged 15-19 cited alcohol as the main reason for the first time they had sex.
  • The average age when people in the UK lose their virginity is 16.

Other people answering How did you lose your virginity?

  • Video by Shantelle

    “After I done it I felt happy and pleased that I had done it and good but I didn't feel like I needed to do it again anytime soon…”

    Shantelle, 27

  • Video by Raj

    “It was nervous time for me ‘cos I knew it was the first time for my wife as well. ”

    Raj, 37

  • Video by Danny

    “All I can remember was one minute I was OK, next minute I woke up in a B&B and, er, this girl was standing in front of me.”

    Danny, 24

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