“I had one too many Alco pops and went back to his place…”
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I was with with a boyfriend that I’d been with for about 6 months at the time, but I had pretty much the usual, the old cliché which I think a lot of us girls tend to fall for…”
“I had one too many Alco pops and went back to his place…”
“After I done it I felt happy and pleased that I had done it and good but I didn't feel like I needed to do it again anytime soon…”
“It was nervous time for me ‘cos I knew it was the first time for my wife as well. ”
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Sheees helped alot. My ex boyfriend used to say to be 'If you loved me you'd do it'
I finished it with him because if HE loved me then he would wait until i was ready :)”
Posted by Katie on 26th Oct at 2:15AM (flag as inappropriate)
Katie: You can't base your self-worth on how sexually attractive you are to a guy. If you're losing weight, it should be for yourself and YOUR quality of life.”
Posted by Kristen on 25th Jun at 5:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was with my ex boyfriend and he wanted me to give him head and cause i thought i loved him i said i would do it but i held it of for a while but he kept on asking me and he dumped me after we had been going out for about 3 months. i think he dumped me because i said i was guna give him head when he asked me but didnt. so girls dont get pressured into things u dont have to/ want to do, because it will end up with u breaking up. if you think a boy only wants u for the sex and stuff then he isn't worth it. x”
Posted by ruby on 31st May at 12:50AM (flag as inappropriate)
I waited until i was in a relationship to lose my virginity. My boyfriend and I decided to wait until i was 17 and he was 18 to lose our virginities; honestly i think 17 is still young to be having sex but as long as you have the emotional connection its acceptable.
I dont think girl or boys she feel pressured into having sex...at the end of the day it's for creating new and expressing your feelings to the person you love, and it's worth waiting for.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 10th Apr at 9:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 17 and i really want to lose mine but i am fat and no one wants to go out with me. I am on a diet of hardly any food and im exercising everyday, all coz i wana find a guy that likes me. I need advice URGENTLY. please”
Posted by Katie on 10th Apr at 11:59AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 14 and recently just got my first proper boyfriend in march. I'd liked him since september last year but stupidly when he asked me out i rejected him now 7 months later he asked me out again i jumped at the oppertunity to go out with him!! I love him so much and dont want to lose him but sometimes i feel as if hes pressuring me into 'doing it' with him to early anyway i talked to him and said that i wasn't ready for 'doing it' yet and he was completly cool about it :) thank god <3”
Posted by charlotte on 6th Apr at 4:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity at 18 to some one i hardly new basically we were friends with benifits and i h8ed every second of it..it was lyk i was just doin it cuz every1 else was..then i met my current bf hu didnt pressure me and waited untill i was ready..the sex is sooo much better as were so compatible..i think people hould wait unitll there in love with someone befor loosing their virginity =]”
Posted by Kirsty on 6th Apr at 12:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
i did the same i dont know if i was ready, i was going to wait until i found the right person, but it just happend because my best friend at the time had lost hers, and so had all my other friends, i felt quite pressured that i was the last one to lose mine, but when i told them, i had lost my virginity, they said oh i havent lost mine i felt Pressured by them.”
Posted by Laura. on 4th Apr at 9:35PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity 2 weeks ago, it did hurt at first and i was scared i wouldnt enjoy it and was almost abuot to back out..but i didnt and it stopped hurting...i bled, but i'm glad i went along with it.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 4th Apr at 12:57AM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost mine about 5 weeks ago not how i imagined it. peer presure to much to drink. me and my brothers best mate.
18 years old so it was legal.
didnt use protection so had to do pregnancy tests but im not so nothing to worry about. ”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 3rd Apr at 9:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 15 and still have my virginity. Some of my friends have already lost it and there is a year nine in my school that is pregnant! But, tbh, i would rather wait. Is that a bad thing? I want to wait for mr. right. But do men prefer women who have lost it?
My best friend has made a silly little pact with herself to loose her virginity by the time she is 16. Personally, I dont want pressure. Am I the only one?”
Posted by Abby on 3rd Apr at 6:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity to a lad thats two years older then me, i was 17 at the time but i stil think people have sex because teheir friends are, ONLY DO IT IF YOUR READY.”
Posted by chelsie on 3rd Apr at 12:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
I Was 13 When I Lost My Virginaty ( 2 years Ago ) And Iv Had One Sexual Partner For About Four Months I Recently Split With Him And Now I Just Sleep With People I Know To Feel Loved And Comforted, I Dont Like Doing It And I Really Regret Doing It After. I Just Wish I Hadnt Lost My Virginaty Soo Young Coz Its Not The In Thing Anymoree.!. Xx”
Posted by jodie on 3rd Apr at 2:21AM (flag as inappropriate)
my first time was with a boy who i had a on off relationship with through the summer. i didnt feel ready, and now i look back thinking that he might of pressured me. i dont really regret it, i regret the fact he was one of the biggest players i know. he is now having sex with one of my ex friends”
Posted by laura on 2nd Apr at 10:31PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 18 and im still a virgin, all my mates are supportive and have never pressured me even though all of them have lost there virginity, i feel happy and am intent on not losing it until i find the right guy!!!”
Posted by Kayleigh on 2nd Apr at 2:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
My first time was when i was 17. It was with the same guy i'm with now. I knew he was right for me because he didn't pressure me into having sex, he let me know that he thought i was good looking and he told me he loved me and after 2 years it felt right.
But he is nothing like the other boys out there, He treats me like a princess, when i was in college and my friends asked how long we had been together and i told them over 4 years, their mouths hit the floor, they were surprised that a relationship could last longer then a month lol.
But when you get along with someone so well and your best friends and he treats you with so much respect and love, being together is easy and enjoyable.
I say dont rush into having sex, Make it special and do it where you are comfortable and you dont have to worry about people walking in on you.
have respect for yourself!”
Posted by bexxy on 2nd Apr at 1:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
i turned 16 last month and about a year ago this guy who was my best friend started talking to me about sex. He was already experienced and he was older than me too. He made out it was easy and you could just get it over and done with. He kept saying to me "i care about you. Thats why im offering to do this for you. Because we're close friends and you can trust me". We were at an under 18s and he was all over me in every other way except from kissing me. Everyone told me he was upto something but id secretly liked him for 3years so when he kept going on about it i agreed to it. I went to his house (brickin' it may i add) and kept saying in my head " he said it'll be fine and i'll be ok so stop worrying.". When i got to his house i felt really pressured but i did what he said. It hurt and i cried because i felt embarrassed. Turned out i obviously wasn't read or prepared. I still remember running home and lying on my bed crying for hours because i knew really id been pressured into it. I was so embarrassed about it and i knew it wasn't what i should have done. So to anyone that reads this and is still a virgin please listen, don't rush into it like i did. You may regret it (depending on the person) and it probably wont be the way you imagined your first time. Its not that big of a deal and its nothing special, its just something everyone experiences.”
Posted by Nicola on 1st Apr at 9:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 14 when i lost my Virginity and i really wish that i had waited. The only reason why i did it was because i was so desperate to fit in and say yea ive done it 2. I've been with my partner since i was 15 and am still with him now he lost his virginity to me i just wish i had waited because i was so young i didnt really know what i was doing. I also wish i had waited because looking back now their was no point in it and it was very immature and i wish i had respected myself alot more so my advice to all you young girls out there is wait until your older it doesnt change anything you are still the same person and lads will only look at you as easy. I would say that losing my virginity so young was one of the biggest mistakes i've done. All young people think the same that we are only just saying this so they don't have sex but you will live to regret it.”
Posted by caz on 1st Apr at 1:41AM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity at 16 (im still 16), i was in a relationship with a boy for about 5 -6 months and i just thought it was the next step. I dont regret it at all which i know ALOT of people do. I was ready and it was definately with the right person :) im glad i found the right guy and i think all girls should wait aswell.. its so worth it in the end.”
Posted by Louise on 1st Apr at 12:19AM (flag as inappropriate)
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and we have done other stuff like fingering and i've given him oral, at the weekend we decided that we wanted to have sex, and i wasnt too sure, i knew i wanted to do it with him, and i knew he was the right guy, but i still wasnt sure... So we started to do it, and we got half way through, but i asked him to stop, not because it hurt too much,'cause it wasnt too bad, but i just felt guilty for some reason. I've thought about it more now, and i do want to... Its experimentation right? I know i want to do it with him, so Wish me luck!”
Posted by Gem on 31st Mar at 9:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 20, and still a virgin too. I obviously would like to lose my virginity, but I'm pretty fussy! I remember at 17 panicking to get it over with before it got 'too late', but things never really felt right, now I'm relieved I didn't just do it with anyone and leave myself feeling regretful.”
Posted by Jane on 31st Mar at 8:07PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 14 when i lost mine. but i was drunk.deliberately sort of.i had an idea that something might happen with me and this guy. so,i got drunk so if anything went wrong i could blame it on the alcohol.stupid really. anyway,after that,any time i had an idea something might happen with a guy,id be almost wasted so that if i made a fool out of myself,i could blame it on booze.im 17 now,and rarely drink because i know i dont need drink for that sort of confidence any more.being sober and aware is so much easier that not knowing the full story.
stay sober girls.then you can make a sane decision”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 4:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im now 29 i lost my virginity when i was 19 & i rushed into it i met i woman she was 35 a mum but she was very experienced & she should me a whole new exciting world, if i could go back in time though i would of waited for love as what i have now beats it hands down.”
Posted by Matt on 31st Mar at 3:08AM (flag as inappropriate)
it wasn't a good experience and yes it is the most horrific pain ever! it was my birthday and i was leathered... my mum heard too!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 12:35AM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 16 when I first lost my virginity, it was with my first proper boyfriend and it was a whirlwind romance, I was staying at his house one night and I felt like it was the opportune moment, it sounds ridiculous but I had made sure I had a sexy nighty and everything else prepared, I did feel slightly pressured, not by him but just by the situation itself to have sex, he told me he loved me but we spent a total of 5months together, he liked another girl while he was with me and now i am 18 I can see that it wasn't really love, although it may have felt like that at the time. I have now been with my current boyfriend for 10months, we have a healthy sex life, but I wish I had waited and still to this day do not feel completely ready, but now I think that Ive done it so there is no longer much point in waiting, and I must admit that once you get over the initial pain it is very fun. I guess my point is to wait, even if you think at the time that the boy you are with is wonderful, make sure he deeply cares about you, always use protection and try not to put yourself in the situation I did as it will lead to unnecessary pressure.”
Posted by lauren on 31st Mar at 12:23AM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 15 when i lost my virginity, i was at a massive party in a field full of friends. I got stupidly drunk when i met this boy, i hadnt known him before. after i had slept for abit and sobered up we started talking. He was lovely, didnt try anything straight away and he was gorgeous. After 3 hours of talking he asked me to go for a drive with him. I know this was a stupid idea now i look back on it but at the time i didn't. He drove around for abit then we pulled into this lay-by and he was really sweet he knew i was a virgin from when we had been talking earlier in the night and we started kissing ect and he asked if i wanted to so i said yeah, because i felt i did want to. So we did and it hurt a little bit and i bled afterwards but i orgasmed.
It sounds awful the way i came about losing my virginity but i don't regret it cause now me and the boy are really good friends and would be in a relationship but i don't want one.
Sex doesn't seem like a big deal to me but i still suggest you wait until you know your ready and its with the right person.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 23rd Mar at 10:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 15 [still a virgin] and was with this guy for ... I'm not sure, about 3 months? but not actually going out, I mean none of our friends knew it. Anyway, I was going round to his house and I always knew that something would happen. It was all just fingering and I gave him oral once, but it just felt so awkward. When I got home I felt so wierd - not like dirty or anything, just wierd. I don't know. The relationship just sort of fizzled out and now this guy avoids me... only two other people know we were ever going out but they don't know the full extent of things.
I'm really glad I didn't have sex with him. I'm going to wait for the right guy - I really think other girls should too.”
Posted by Georgina on 8th Mar at 1:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
My first time was with this amazing boy. He told me i was so special and he loved me i believed him but then i found out a few days later that he had another girlfriend. I was heartbroken and havent had sex since and i wont until I'm certain its the right person”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 16th Feb at 9:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
thank you nicky for sharing you gave me good advice”
Posted by Gemma on 14th Feb at 8:14AM (flag as inappropriate)
im 13.not done anything yet i wouldnt do either.i dont see the big thing about sex.wait for the right moment girls.some boys are only interested in sex sex sex.just wait and it will come naturally.”
Posted by latoyah on 25th Dec at 11:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost mine last night.
I'm fifteen years old, he's sixteen. We were both virgins and we talked about it for a month before we actually did it. I love him as a person and he feels the same. I don't know if we will be together forever, but we are happy now and we both felt ready. It didn't hurt much at all because I was very relaxed and comfortable. We talked through the begining to get things started. I kind of felt numb in that area, and we didn't go all the way with it. He stopped before he reached the big O.
Then we just snuggled up together and talked.”
Posted by Kendra on 21st Dec at 10:48PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 20, 21 in two months and am still a virgin. I haven't waited by choice, I just haven't found the person I want to loose it to yet. I'm at university and situations have come up recently were I thought i'll just do it and get it over with. I'm still thinking this and have been spending time with a guy who i know will jump at the chance but he doesn't want a relationship and I don't wanna be just sex buddies with someone. I get made fun of for still playing the V card but it doesn't bother me anymore.”
Posted by Julie on 11th Dec at 10:48PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 16 when I think I lost my virginity but I was so drunk that I don't even remember, so I can’t be sure exactly what happened. I just remember waking up covered in blood and being in so much pain, and I ended up crying for weeks about it. I never told anyone and so I still got bullied for being an 18 year old virgin by my “best friend”. She’d often embarrass me in front of guys I liked or her friends to make me feel inferior and boost her confidence. I eventually slept with a guy I’d loved for a while aged 18 and a half, and it was one of the best nights of my life. There was no pressure; we just wanted make love in every sense of the phrase. To me, this was my first time, regardless of what happened when I was younger, as it was the perfect time, place and way. It was the first time that I did anything properly, remembered anything and most importantly, felt loved. Don’t EVER let anyone pressure you into sex, especially because “all your friends have done it.” Looking at this page, it’s evident that most girls here wish they’d have waited till they were older and until they were truly ready. Sex is a highly personal and private experience, and is you and your partners business, and nobody else’s.”
Posted by natasha on 11th Dec at 9:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 18 and I met this guy at a frat party. Granted I was not sober when we first met, but he was really sweet and he didn't try anything with me when I was drunk. We talked for 2 hours, then went back to his place and talked for a few more hours, so by this time I was pretty much completely sober. I told him I was a virgin and he asked me if I wanted to do anything. I really liked him, so I just said yes, but I was afraid that it would hurt a lot. He told me that he would go really slowly and would stop if I told him to. So we made out for a long time and he fingered me and by this time we were both breathing heavily. Then, clothes came off and he put the condom on. I didn't even realize it was on, so I asked him and made sure. Then we just started having sex...It hurt a lot at first and I told him to slow down, so he did. Eventually, however, it got better and we both orgasmed. I know it's rare to do that the first time, but I don't know, it just happened. So we're going to hang out a lot now because we both really like each other and have a lot in common. We've been talking a lot ever since them. I don't regret it at all, I had a good time, and frankly (I know this isn't some people's philosophies), it was nice to get it over with, especially with someone I was attracted to. But I told my three best girlfriends about it and they were all astounded, shocked and surprised. Now they're trying to tell me that I wasn't emotionally ready for it and I should probably regret it more than I do since I had just met him and it was my first time...And one of the judgmental girls who was telling me this has already had sex with three different partners, so I'm not about to be guilted into regretting my decision. I was sober, I liked him and was attracted to him, he didn't pressure me into it, he was slow and careful, and it happened. I'm glad that it did. I like this guy and I'm glad I did it with him.”
Posted by Caitlin on 8th Dec at 5:34AM (flag as inappropriate)
Fourteen, nearly fifteen. Too young. Had been seeing a boy that was the same age for about a month. Went to a house party and decided beforehand I wanted to lose it but made the mistake of getting completely wasted to calm my nerves, it's a bit of a blur and made me reliant on alcohol for confidence in the bedroom for a good few years. I'm now nineteen and don't drink so I don't have that option. It's much better.
DON'T LOSE IT DRUNK AND WAIT UNTIL IT FEELS RIGHT”
Posted by Nicolette on 28th Nov at 6:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 15 and with my first proper bf. it wasnt worth it really but i was with him over a year.”
Posted by julie on 27th Nov at 12:08AM (flag as inappropriate)
i would have love to be a virgin until my wedding night but my parent are making wrong accusation about me pls help.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 17th Nov at 5:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost mine about six months ago. I'd been going out with a boy for two months (who had been my best friend for a year prior) - I'm fifteen, he was fourteen at the time. It hurt a lot but there was no bleeding, and we were both completely sure that we wanted to do it. We're still together, but I sometimes wish I'd waited a little longer.”
Posted by Cassie on 28th Oct at 2:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 15 when I lost my virginity in August this year, (I also know the date and the time roughly, ha! Purely by coincidence, I looked at the clock and it was his birthday!) and admittedly I wasn't entirely sure that I was ready. Despite being completely sober, I think we both got caught up in the heat of the moment and it was pretty awkward and fumbled! We didn't cut corners though and took precautions, thanks to my handy supply of condoms I had bought because I had expected it to happen. He had been my boyfriend for 10 months and he is still my boyfriend now. Although the experience totally wasn't what I'd anticipated, I don't regret being quite so young because I was completely comfortable and we had spoken about it beforehand (we were both virgins). It still played on my mind though - my periods were erratic anyway so I couldn't wait for it to arrive! I couldn't convince myself that I wasn't pregnant even though we used a condom and it didn't split, which I guess is why I felt I should have waited longer. There's a reason why the government have 16 as their age of consent, personally I don't think anybody younger is adequately mature enough to handle the situation. I thought otherwise and I can clearly see now how wrong I was!”
Posted by Emily on 28th Oct at 1:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 13 years old when i had my 1st sexual experiance with my boyfriend who i had been dating for two months. NOT SEX. Thankfully, but, the other stuff. We were both 13 and we hadn't really got a clue about what we were meant to be doing so technically we didn't do it properly. But, anyway we did it and he did try to take it further but i was adamant that i wasn't ready for actual sex. Afterwards, i felt dirty, upset and stupid and the next day i was too scared to tell my best friend what i had done because she hadn't even kissed a boy let alone touched his bits!
Eventually i told her and she acted exactley how i thought she would. Shocked and disgusted. I cried a bit and decided to dump my boyfriend because i didn't want anything like what we did to happen again. I think i felt pressured that i had a boyfriend that i HAD to do stuff with him but you really don't.
Looking back now 2 years later it made me realize that i was glad that i had atleast somekind of knowladge of sex even if it was only a little. But one things for sure i was absoloutley thrilled to have kept my virginity otherwise i would have been a bloody emotional wreck. I mean i cried about a little bit of oral that was crap for god sake!
Ah well... and still i am proud to say i have my virginity a 15!
:D
PS girls... hold onto it as long as you can. ;)”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 27th Oct at 9:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity when i was 16 (a year and a half ago) to my boyfriend of 4 months who i was and still am totally in love with. We did plan it, we went to London for three days and on the first night we went on the London eye to watch the sun on the roof tops, then went to a restaurant and went to the hotel. It was perfect and i will never forget it for as long as i live. We are still together and I am so happy I waited.”
Posted by jess on 24th Oct at 8:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
To me, loosing your V isn't as amazing as people make it out to be. I think as long as you are comfortable and sober enough to know what you're doing there's no problem. Oh and use the good old condom.
I don't regret loosing mine (I'm 15, lost it a few months ago on Friday the 13th) but I do regret where it was. It was in a tent in the middle of a playing field (?) near my town and it was absolutely freezing. The entire night I was frozen. So a word of advice, if you feel ready make sure you feel comfortable with everything: the person, the time, the atmosphere and the location!!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 22nd Oct at 6:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 and only dropped the V-Plates last month (September 12th. How lame is it that I remember the date?) It was with my first real boyfriend. We've been friends for three years, and the entire time I knew him, up until last Febuary, he was going out with a girl that I had never gotten on with, but I was civil to her for the sake of my friendship with him. I pretty much fell for him the second we met. When they broke up last Febuary, he admitted to me that he'd always returned my feelings but never let on because he didn't think I'd like him. We started going out in May. He's had many sexual partners in the past and had a reputation for himself, but during the course of our long friendship I'd seen him change dramatically from a horny little boy into a man who finally had a mature understanding of sex. He knew I wasn't ready to do anything when we got together, because I'd never done anything more than kissing my entire life, so he assured me that making me feel safe and comfortable, not getting me into bed, was his top priority. (Sweet, right?)
So when I was finally ready, about two weeks before I actually lost it, I told him and he was honestly a bit shocked because I'm always very shy about that stuff. So he booked us in a really nice hotel for a night.
He was so sweet about it all. Everything went at my pace and he kept asking if I was ok and making sure I was comfortable with everything. We actually had sex three times that night, but I had to ask him to stop each time because it was so sore. I felt really bad about it and had a bit of a cry into his shoulder for leaving him hanging like that, but he just held me close, told me he loved me and assured me that just having me beside him was enough.
We're still going strong and are very much in love. Sex and physical shows of love was never the main thing in our relationship and I feel as though is was a perfect way for my first time to happen.
Hopefully anyone else reading this who wants to loose it just for the sake of loosing it will decide to wait like I did to find someone who takes care of them s much as he takes care of me.
Thanks for reading.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 21st Oct at 3:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm sixteen and just lost my virginity last week. it was with a guy was one of my close friends and eventually grew into me coming over at night. he's the kind of guy that gets around a lot and he knew i was a virgin and he thought it was the hottest thing ever. but i went to a party with him and i ended up having sex with him, which i don't regret i'm actually kind of glad that i got it over with but i just wish it was with someone else. someone that meant something to me. it wasn't messy at all but it did hurt, really bad.”
Posted by Samantha on 20th Oct at 2:53AM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 13 when i lost my virginity and it is the worst thing that i could of ever done. i was with my boyfriend that i felt i loved for like 2 years and we finally got together, after his break-up with his last girl-friend. i felt it was the only way i could keep him with me, so we did it. but it was awkward and weird. as soon as i got home i took a bath, and that's when it all hit me. i realised what i had just done, i felt dirty and discusting. within 3 days this boy dumped me. and 'til this day i still think about it and cry. he told all his friends and i often have someone ask me about it. without a doubt you should really think if it's really what you want before jumping into bed.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 19th Oct at 8:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 15, still a virgin! I thing quite a lot of girls do feel pressured into doing sexual things that they are not ready for. But boys don't help us. They just use younger girls to an advantage as we can be quite niave to what could actually happen! I want to save myself until I feel the time is right :)”
Posted by Jess on 19th Oct at 4:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 10 when i lost my virginity, i hung round with boys my age but they were a bit rough and acted older, and they were always going on about their girlfriends and how many times they had done 'it'. I felt left out and they used to tease me all the time. Well at the time i was sorta friends with the girl down the road and my estate was full of chavvy people mostly. anyway the girl was a year older than me but she was always flirting with me and my mate. so one night after i was just so sick of my mates teasing me, i went round to her house. Her mother was at work and her brother was sleeping on the sofa. so we just went up to her room and talked for a while, and i started to tell her about the teasing and stuff, and she said she understood. Then we sat in silence for a bit, and then i had a sudden erge to kiss her, so i did and the it just started to kick off.”
Posted by Tom on 18th Oct at 1:07AM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 17 when I lost my virginity and it was not how i expected it to be. It was with one of my friends that I had previously gone out with a few years beforehand. We had both had far too much to drink at a music festival and ended up having sex in one of the porta-loos. I felt disgusted with myself in the morning and would do anything to go back in time and have my virginity back. Biggest regret of my life.”
Posted by Beth on 17th Oct at 3:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
it was a month after my 14th birthday and i had been going out with my first boyfriend for 2 month, he had just turned 16.. i was excited at first as i hadnt experienced anything like this before, he slightly pressured me into it though, i think i did want to do it but i was so scared.. i was ready physically but not mentally. after it i was ok, though i went to extreme paranoia where i stopped eating thinking im pregnant i lost 9 pounds in 2 weeks, i got reffered to my GP and she suggested i went on the pill :-) though iv put all my weight back on and a bit more lol. i think i kind of regret doing it that young but it was the fashion you could say lol, im still with the partner and im good now, i dont regret it i just wish i made sure i was more ready for it..because everything is so new to you, just make sure your ready & make it special to remember...x”
Posted by maria on 16th Oct at 9:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 13 when I had sex for the first time. The guy had had sex before and for some reason made me go on top and I didn't really know what to do...It was not very good but I don't regret it at all because I learnt from it.”
Posted by Anita on 16th Oct at 2:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
Personally i havent had sex yet as i am only 13. i Think any1 who is thinking about jhaving sex should think past the moment because you might want to do it at the time bt you might regreate it afterwards. so think past the moment and dont ever let anyone pressure you into having sex good luck. Xx”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 15th Oct at 6:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity to a friend. I'd just turned 16 and we were at a party, i got drunk and brought him upstairs and we ended up having sex on my mates bedroom floor.I could hardly remember it the next day to much regret,id always thought it be romantic!but me and him still see eachother on a regular basis strictly for sex,he's thought me alot.now boyfriends always say how talented i am in the bedroom”
Posted by Jeni on 14th Oct at 10:50PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost mine just after I turned 18 to my boyfriend of 2 months. I already knew I was ready for it, and had been for some time. I was careful about losing it though, I nearly lost it to an ex boyfriend and had second thoughts - I'm so pleased I held out! My first time was made v special by the fact I waited, although it took us a few attempts to get it right which was frustrating! It wasn't my best sex ever, pretty basic - you learn the good stuff later on! I'm still with the same guy 4 years on and we have learnt a lot together. He was a virgin too which made it more special. I think losing your virginity is more important to girls than boys though, boys are much more laid back about it. It didn't hurt for me, it felt a bit tight and uncomfortable but your body soon gets used to it. It wasn't messy either - I think I already broke my hymen with tampons! It helps to be relaxed and comfortable with your partner and take your time. dim the lights and put a nice CD on.”
Posted by Amy on 14th Oct at 9:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity at 13 im 15 now and ive had sex with 12 lads i regret half of them and i fell so stupid i wish i could go back :( x”
Posted by Becky on 14th Oct at 9:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
My sexual experience was wih a girl, I was 15 and was cofused about my sexuality.
She was one of my best friends ad we were both rather quite drunk, she had been with girls before, so she knew what she was doing. I did't have a clue.
The next day I felt awful but I knew it felt right, it took me a couple of months to come round to the fact that I was Bi. But in the end I came out.
In the next few years I had one major girlfriend and saw a few girls and boys, though nothing to the extent of losing my virginity.
It was comig up to my 18th and everyone around had had sex, I had not.
I wasn't pressured into doing it, I was just frustrated.
I did't plan on it happening this way.
But on my 18th birthday I went out drinking, and as I was coming out of this club I bumped into a random guy, chatted for about 15mins and decided to go back with him.
We ended up having sex and it hurt, really hurt for a while but after that it didn't hurt.
I don't really regret it as I think well at least I have experieced it, it wasn't amazing, but it wasn't horrifically bad.
I just don't think its all that its cracked up to be to be honest.
And I find it mad that my younger brother and all his friends are boosting the fact that have lost their virginity at the age of 14 !
I think if you feel you are ready for it then yeah sure go for it.
But don't do it just to boost to your friends about it, its just silly. ”
Posted by Steff on 14th Oct at 8:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 16. I had been with my boyffriend for a year, we were both virgins and tried to make it special. After that I developed an incurable bladder disease which has ruined my life. I am now in agony every day and have the symptomns of an infection EVERY day.
That's what I get for being an idiot and actually caring about my virginity. I should have been like most people and done it with a stranger behind the chip shop.
I can't have sex, or orgasms ever again. All because of sex.
I wish I was any one of yous that commented before!”
Posted by Al on 14th Oct at 8:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity at 14 at my mates house party, i still speak to the lad and were good mates, i dont regret it, but it could have been better to be honest”
Posted by sarah on 14th Oct at 10:46AM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 13. im now 15 and have two beautiful twins.”
Posted by marian on 13th Oct at 9:35PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 14, and pressured by my 16 year old boyfriend, who ironically I'm no longer with. I really regret it to be honest. But I honestly couldn't say no to him, as awful as that sounds.”
Posted by Emma on 13th Oct at 2:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my viriginity at age 16 to a boy I'd been seeing on and off for a couple of months.. I was drunk and had just wanted to get it over with. All I remember about it was that it was painful and that I cried my eyes out when I got home. Even though it doesn't sound particularly romantic or pleasant and I regretted it at the time, I don't regret doing it thinking back.”
Posted by Jordan on 11th Oct at 8:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity at 14, i was definately ready at the time but i don't think it was with the right person.He was 2 years older than me and had 4 sexual partners beforehand, one of them being a close friend and we didn't get the same thing out of the experience. For me it was somthing more than just sex but maybe not for him”
Posted by Emma on 10th Oct at 6:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
im nearlly 16 and still a virgin i think its silly to have sex with someone you are not comfortable with because it is nearlly always regretted in the long run. none of my main friends have had sex so i dont feel left out at all, and even if they had, i wouldnt feel pressured into doing it. although tbh its just a bit of fun in my opinion and your not likely to stay with your first time partner for ever so as long as you are safe and over 16 i dont think it should matter a great deal, who you have your first time with. people may dissagree but its just an opinion:):):)”
Posted by kelly on 10th Oct at 4:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity at 11 although i didnt want to i feel i was forced in to it by the 14 year old. Me and my friends at the time were at our friends house and his brother asked me to go upstairs i had no idead at the time why then he started kissing me and told me to rub his penis then it all happened from there!! and after that i slep with alot of people for comfort”
Posted by Jodi on 10th Oct at 12:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 18 just turned and was with the boy for about 4 months and id known him for about 6 months he told me he loved me and i believed him and then the day after i got a text message saying we wasnt meant to be together i wish i hadnt of slept with him but i was ready at the time but it was obvious he wanted just sex and nothing else =(”
Posted by Rachael on 9th Oct at 10:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 13 when I lost my virginity. It was also on the same day that I ever had my first french kiss!! I felt weird, like I didn't know what the hell I was doing and that I'd lost sense on reality. I really regret it and would say to any under 16 year old to think twice before having sex because, like me, you may be left with a really bad memory when you're older. Plus, sex is SO much better when you're with someone you love, trust me!”
Posted by Angela on 9th Oct at 9:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'd been with my boyfriend for 2 months and on his 18th birthday came back from friends and just got carried away in the moment on his parents sofa. I was 18 at the time and ready to lose my virginity we were together for 2 years.”
Posted by Steph on 9th Oct at 9:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lots my virginity at 14, i wasnt pressured into it really but i wasnt really sure i wanted to do it, we soon broke up and now im with a new boy and when we did it fisrt it felt so much better, i wish i have saved myself for him and the first time sould always be special.”
Posted by amber on 9th Oct at 8:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 16 and had been with my boyfriend for around 5 months. I thought I was ready, and one night, at a party, he made the move. It was terrible, rushed, messy. I regret it to this day. We split up shortly after. I suggest people really think about whether they are ready or not, because it isn't always as perfect as you want it to be.”
Posted by Hazel on 8th Oct at 10:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 16 and had been talking about losing my virginity for a long time. I'd planned to wait for someone "special" but was still in love with my ex (who was actually with another girl) but he said he still cared about me, so I settled for right here right now.. I feel bad for her as they've actually turned into something serious now, but I don't believe in having regrets.”
Posted by B on 8th Oct at 4:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost mine at 14 i regret it becuase he was not a very nice person and i just feel as soon as he got me for what he wanted he left me he told me that it was becuase he didn't love me anymore. but i realy didn't think so i thought that he had got what he wanted and then he wanted some of someone else. i am 15 now and i have promised my self and my mum that i'm not going to do it again untill i'm at least 16. ”
Posted by Gemma on 7th Oct at 8:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had just turned 15 and been with my bf for a month. One day i had a free house and invited him round i knew what was going to happen. It was good but nothing speacial looking back. We split up after 2 months and it was obvious he only wanted the sex. Glad i lost it at that time because i was ready for it, but wish it had been with someone eles.”
Posted by Helen on 6th Oct at 6:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
Well When I Lost My Virgintiy I Was 13, It Was Not The Way I Planned To Lose It. I Was Going Out With My Friend Who Was Meeting A Much Older Boy She Knew (He Was 18) I Felt Awkward So Started Necking Some Vodka Shots And I Fianlly Started Talkin To One Of This Boys Mates. Then From After Around 7pm I Dont Remember Anything. It Was When I Woke Up The Next Day With Him Lay Next To Me And I Had No Knickers On I Guesses What Happened. I Now Talk To This Lad And He Really Regrets What Happened And Always Says Sorry, I Have Let Him Off But I Also Said He Now Never Tries Anything Like That Again. Thankfully He Wore A Condom As Well. I Am Now 16”
Posted by Becky on 5th Oct at 12:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
My first time, we had discussed a LOT beforehand, (both were virgins) and we'd been buildng up to it a long time. He was very gentle (especially seeing as initially we had trouble with getting a condom on while maintaining erectness, so I was on the pill) and made sure I was perfectly comfortable. It was perfect and we're still together, I just wish someone had told me about the mess!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 5th Oct at 9:57AM (flag as inappropriate)
I had always said no sex before marriage,then i met the most amazin guy, he fancied my best mate, so for the best part of a year we were constantly talking (sbout her), but when we finally met up again he kissed me and the following night i found myself on a hotel floor having what i thought to be the best thing ever, 4 years on were married with two children and i dont regret anything, i knew i loved him and was willing to accept the one night stand, luckily for me i got the rest of the world aswell”
Posted by K on 4th Oct at 2:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
well my experience wasnt very plesent, i was 16 and i done it behind my local shop, it was very embarrasing but it was worth it”
Posted by danielle on 1st Oct at 8:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
The teachers at school have got sex education all wrong! In my school they sort of promote sex because instead of teaching us not to have sex, they're telling us, well if you decide to, we'll be here to provide you with all the protection; condoms, pregnancy tests, morning after pills!
The Sex Education Show is a long awaited show for all teenagers to really see the consequences of irresponsibilty...”
Posted by Hayley on 1st Oct at 7:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
i recently had my first time with a lad who had saw me after my school prom and thought i was good looking. we started talking over the internet and texting.. he was only looking for a sex partner and i didnt want to be that girl. but i started 2 fall for him and he convinced me everythink would be ok.
we planned to meet up and i still wasnt sure if i was going to go through with it as it was our first meeting. he had had quite alot to drink and i struggle to say know to people. and we ended up doing it.. now i hardly speak to him and havent seen him since and i really regret doing it all.. but i had thought because i was 16 i had to do it”
Posted by charlotte on 1st Oct at 1:36AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 19 and only recently lost my virginity. I hadn't waited deliberately really but am glad i did, my boyfriend is 6 years older than me and wasn't a virgin, but he waited for me to be ready and made it really easy for me, i don't regret it and am glad i waited till i am older, now we are able to experiment more and he makes me feel much more confident about being naked in front of him and sex and everything x”
Posted by A on 30th Sep at 11:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 19 and i am still a virgin, I havnt lost it because I have not found someone i want to loose it too. in an odd way i see it as theres a lot in my life i cant controll but i can controll whoi give something so special up to!!
sometimes i think amybe i should just go and loose it to anyone but i want iot to be soecial, even though i feel like im a looser for still being a virgin!and people have taken the micky out of me for it!”
Posted by terrie on 30th Sep at 9:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity about 6 months b4 my 18th birthday, I always said I would Neva do it when someone else wanted me to because I new if I did I would regret it and I didn't want that so I waited for the perfect guy and made 100% that I wanted to do it with the aid of condoms I did it and that was about 4 years ago and me n him are still 2gether, are now engaged and have a beautiful little girl. Neva do something that someone else wants you to do, it's your body if you don't respect it why should any1 else.”
Posted by Gemma on 30th Sep at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was a month off being 16 when i first had sex but been with him since i was 13 it was very special i was with him till i was 23, i am now 35 and we are back in contact again but he is married with 3 children and i am with someone and have been since i broken up with him we have had sex again (i know that it is wrong)but it was still special like they say you never forget your first love”
Posted by Joanne on 30th Sep at 9:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 12 when I lost my virginity. My mum was quite angry when she found out. Anybody who hasn't lost their virinity yet, and are afraid to do so, make sure you really like your partner first or it can end up in tears. Make sure you use a condom in any type of sexual experience.”
Posted by Megan on 29th Sep at 5:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity at 14, looking back at it now i don't think it was a good thing, im 17, i recently met a boy and we've been together for a year, i really wish that i waited”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 25th Sep at 4:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity to my boyfriend whom i was going out with for about six months and i dont regret it because we both wanted it and it just happened really. i definitly do not regret my first time.”
Posted by Steph on 25th Sep at 3:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost mine to someone i new for 15mins when i was almost 15. I randomly started talking to someone on the internet, met up and within 15mins i was at theres and we was having sex (with condoms!). I know i was ready for it, i was the one who asked, and although it could have been more special, i dont regret it. The guy was lovely, the sex was amaizing, not painfull at all. We dated for a little time after but we didnt really connect. Im happy i did it cos I wanted to and i didnt feel used afterwards.”
Posted by Chloe on 24th Sep at 11:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi i see where nicky is coming from i waz 20 and i was waiting till i got some1 who loved me but i meet this lad but him and my mate pushed me into having in sex so i did it i wish i did not some times but i hated it so much and the next day he walked away and 9months l8er i have a lil son so thanks”
Posted by lisamarie on 24th Sep at 7:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 18 when I lost my virginity. I had worried about not doing it earlier, especially as it seemed like loads of my friends were, but honestly, I had never felt strongly enough (never loved) someone enough to actually sleep with them.
No-one ingrained it in me that you should love someone to have sex with them, but although opportunities presented themselves to sleep with people that I dated, I could never bring myself, as it were, to connect with anyone by having sex.
The way I see it is that sex is the ultimate connection you can have with someone, and I knew that to feel comfortable enough with them, I would have to feel completely connected to them in every other way first; and I met the person that I completely and utterly love at 18. I am now 20 and we are still together and going strong :)”
Posted by Vicki on 24th Sep at 6:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
i really regret losing mine as we finished after going out for 3 months and i was only 14. also when i finished with him he didnt take it well and threatend me with all sorts of stuff once the police was called it was all sorted so now im with someone that i love and totally trust and we now have great sex!!”
Posted by Claire on 23rd Sep at 8:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi lost my virginity whit a boy who i meat at a party we gave numbers and met up a lot if time we was always on the phone or chating online. We went out one night and one thing lead to anouther but i would not do it with out useing a condom lucky boy he had one. :)”
Posted by Amber on 23rd Sep at 8:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was with my boyfriend in my room and we was just kissing then he pulled out a condom and said yes shall we then i said yes then we just done it”
Posted by jade on 23rd Sep at 7:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
I decided to wait...my mum used to say 'keep your hand on your ha'penny' which to me, was worth millions and I wasnt about to hand that to the first guy I met on the street! So..roll on, and I'm 19, been with my fella for almost a year, and I had been wearing my 'best frillies' for about 6 months in the hope! When it did eventually happen, I had just got my first flat and he had gone up and plonked a quilt and pillow in one corner of the lounge room... it was nothing like the experience I thought it would be, it was sore, uncomfortable and I didnt know how I was supposed to behave afterwards. We stayed together for 12 years after that though and learned what we both liked and how to please eachother.”
Posted by Donna on 16th Sep at 8:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
well.. me and my boyfriends were in his rrom and his dad was down stairs then his dad went out and we were just kissing then, i said go on i know you want to do it we might aswell get in over and done with, he was four years older than me but now were engaged i love him so i guess it was the right choice.”
Posted by Simone on 10th Sep at 6:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
poor u!!”
Posted by bill/ben on 10th Sep at 8:23AM (flag as inappropriate)