“By that time I was certainly aware that I was homosexual and determined that it wasn’t going to be somebody else’s problem, I was keeping it all to myself and all under wraps.”
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The look on my mums face, she was very distraught and kind of just ignored it and walked away.”
“By that time I was certainly aware that I was homosexual and determined that it wasn’t going to be somebody else’s problem, I was keeping it all to myself and all under wraps.”
“I phoned everyone that I knew that was of any importance to me, all on the same day. And there were a few people that I had very odd reactions from.”
“In a way it’s harder to come out as bisexual because it’s less understood and because people immediately think 'Oh actually he’s gay, he's just denying it'. ”
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When i came out as lesbian to my friends, most of them accepted it and carried on as normal. Only one of m friends sort of stopped talking to me as much. Also she spread a rumour that I looked at the girls in our PE changing room and that i fancied practically every girl. I got fed up with it and told everyone that just because I am a lesbian doesn't mean i'm gonna pounce on every girl i see.”
Posted by Alicia on 4th Sep at 2:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 15 (16 this month) and if I had to be labeled I'd say I'm bisexual although really I don't think that's quite the right word as it varies. Most of the time I do like girls more but sometimes I can be only interested in guys.
I came out to my friends last year. I did it one friend at a time (and not in person because I wasn't sure how they would react!) and thankfully even the ones I admitted I had had crushes on were wonderful and accepting. One of them I can tell is still a little weird but when they say homophobic things I just laugh it off and don't take it to heart because I know its only her trying to understand it. I think that's the key - don't take anything to heart because your sexuality is a unique part of you and therefore and some people just can't quite understand it. I guess I know deep down she is not trying to be nasty.
Since coming out I have had a relationship with a guy that was a complete flop because I really wasn't attracted to him (I mean - in 5 weeks I don't think I even gave him a peck on the cheek) I was just going through a bad patch and needed to feel wanted. I have also had a relationship with a girl who I loved to pieces and although it broke my heart we parted on good terms. I don't think she was quite comfortable with her sexuality and wasn't prepared for such an intense a relationship as it quickly became.
Unfortunately I live in a small community so trying to find other girls my age who are "out and proud" so-to-speak is difficult so its great reading all the comments from people my age on this video. :)
My parents are both pretty accepting in general but even so i have chosen to wait a while before telling them just because of nerves. I feel so guilty now though because some of my friends have told their parents and so they know before MY mum and dad. I'm also terrified that one of them will let something slip because I know some of them know my grandparents and i really have no idea how they would react. I am very close to my grandma especially but she is French and was raised in a traditional Catholic family and although she is no longer a practicing Catholic I am terrified some of the stronger values still hold strong in her mind. Hopefully when I do eventually tell my family they will remember that we are family first and foremost and that I love them dearly. ”
Posted by Yveline on 5th Aug at 1:51AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm a 16 year old girl and I came out as bisexual when I was 13 years old. I struggled for a year until the age of 14 when I finally told my friends and family. My mother and father were very supportive and a lot of my friends didn't mind but a few started calling me disgusting and dirty and I felt terrible for a while, but a few years on and I'm completely fine with myself and have had relationships with both male and female.”
Posted by leigh on 2nd Aug at 1:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm a girl but that's the only label I'll agree to. I don't identify as gay or straight or bisexual. I have always liked girls more than I should. I can remember being 5 years old and having girl crushes. But I still love men. I still feel a little confused about which gender I prefer but that's okay. I don't feel pressured to come out or feel like what I'm doing is 'wrong' or 'dirty'. I have not told my parents yet, not because I'm afraid they won't accept me, it's just that I'll wait until I find that special person. Then I'll tell them everything they want to know.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 28th Jul at 9:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am not sure wether i am gay or not?
I am 13 nearly 14 now. When i was twelve i started watching pornography. I was more attracted to lesbian porn. Then a friend came over to stay. I hadn't seen her in a few months so we got talking. I asked her if she had ever watched porn? she said she had and that she prefered lesbian, just like me. We went up to my bedroom and started watching it on my computer. Somehow or another, the door got closed, the curtains drawn and we were both starting to undress each other. Ok, i admit i said we could try that if you wanted and my friend adreed. We kissed each other for a while and then we started to explore each others body. we fingered each other and licked each other too. It was a one off. I was just experimenting but i feel really ashamed and havent told anyone before this comment. Although it was nearly 2 years ago, i have started to watch lesbian porn again. I was wondering if this made me lesbian or not?”
Posted by Samantha on 28th Jul at 10:18AM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out to my mum through text, and she was fuming but when I talked to her she cried a little. My dad took it amazingly well, and although i thought my sister would hate me and never see me in the same way again, I can talk to her about any girls I fancy. My mum and I just laugh about it now and shes accepted it. Some people used to call me things like 'lesbian or dyke' when in fact I am bisexual and the people who called me names has in fact turned bi or lesbian themselves believe it or not!! It's so much better to get it off your chest. Now if i ever meet anyone and they ask I'll tell them because I'm proud to be bi as I love guys and girls.. [girls more] people learn to accept! It's worth it I promise :)”
Posted by Jessica on 24th Jul at 12:00AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm finding it impossible to come out to my mum. I drop hints all the time but she still wont get it. It is really upsetting me and I don't know whether I should come out because I'm terrified of the 'disappointment' they will feel. My mum was in a violent relationship with my dad. I don't know whether this has anything to do with the way I feel, its not like I hate men or anything, I just don't feel sexually attractive to them. I'm sure this isn't a phase but it's just so hard. I have told most of my friends and most of them don't judge me, in fact I've got closer to my best friend since I have told her. Another friend doesn't understand but tries her best to. I love my family and am scared they'll treat me differently after I have told them. Would it not be okay if i just didn't tell them? i feel like I'm ashamed but i know I'm proud of who I am. It's just I know my family wont be.”
Posted by heather on 9th Jul at 5:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
I totaly relate to this.
I was thirteen when I came out, even though I'm bisexual.”
Posted by Mary on 3rd Jul at 4:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 17 and a lesbian. I have been with my girlfriend over 2years now, known each other about 6 years so we know each other pretty well. She asked me to marry her last year as well, so yeah we are pretty in love :) We realised we liked each other on a school trip to Paris, and by that time we were both Bi and going out with lads. Then we realised that we did like each other and even though it has been difficult seeing as we are best friends, I wouldn't change anything for the world! I am proud to be gay and iI will never let anyone put me down for it! My mum found out I was well bi at the time last year, but it wasn't good because me and my girlfriend we're having an argument and my mum walked in and well lets just say things have been hard since. It has taken ages to get my parents to accept it, still do not think they fully do. They won't let my girlfriend stay over at my house and I only get to see her once a week and only sleep over once a month. It is very hard at times because her parents accept us and allow me to stay over all the time. My cousin is gay and he was accepted, so it is hard to understand why I can't be. None of my family know, my parents won't let them, and it hurts that they are ashamed on me, I feel that everyone should be accepted no matter what their sexuality is! If anyone is having the same trouble as me, or had it, could you please comment this please, it would be nice to know i'm not alone :) Do not be ashamed of who you are! Be proud :D Like I am :D Good luck to everyone coming out :D”
Posted by Lydia on 13th May at 2:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out when I was 12 as bisexual. My mom still thinks it's a phase and my friends all just think I'm a lesbian as I'm not really attracted to guys, but I have more male friends and occassionally sleep with men, although I enjoy women more, so I don't know if I am bisexual or gay... hmm.
(I'm 19 now and really think I should have figured this out by now!)”
Posted by hayley on 29th Apr at 8:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
hello my names leanne. im 17 now. i first relised i liekd girls when i was in year 6. i just thaught it was a phase.. so i didnt relaly think nuffin much of it,and then when i was in year 8 this new girl came to my school, i got to know her and stuff..and she was really hot.. at this time iwas with a guy.. but i still did stuff with this new girl.. so one night she stayed over and we did things.. since then i fancied her loadss.. id prefer to see her then my boyfriend. i told my boyfriend in 2007 i think im bisexual.. and carried on gonig otu with him. but my friend that i got in with and stuff.. she said to me one day that shes straight and she was only trying it out with me to see.. so then abotu a year later.. i dumped my boyfriend.. which was hard becuase didnt want to break his heart but had to coz didnt feel happy with him.. and then i "came out" as bisexual, i met this girl at a part few weeks later and started to know her didnt go out with her straight awya wnate to get to know her.. and then few months later we started gonig out.. and now i just love girls.. so ive came out as a lesbian. my friends accept me for who i am. some of them i feel liek they are still bit weird around me. and for my parents.. mum didnt talk to me for ahes when i came out as bisexual first.. my dad was okish about it.. my grandparents werrnt happy at all.!!! but now i dont care what people think abot my sexuality, its love that matters not gender. wish everyone luck on comming out :D. x”
Posted by leanne on 18th Apr at 1:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. I have had the suspicion that I might be bisexual from the age of 4 (which sounds rediculously young) when I found myself being attracted to friends older sisters, this continued at at about 9 or 10 me and another female friend began playing games like tickling at a sleepover, which eventually led to us touching each other. Ever since I've tried to brush the whole factor under the rug, but at parties have often found myself kissing female friends. At 14 I mentioned to a boyfriend at the time that I wasn't sure if I liked girls as well as guys, but he pretty much just took it as me playing up a 'I'm cool and interesting factor.' At 16 I decided I would come to a final decision about my sexuality, but chicked out because I didn't want to make the mistake, not knowing if this would be something I would grow out of - because of this I have decided to wait until I am 18, so I am a little bit more prepared and aware. My feelings seem to be causing problems in my relationship, becuase I'm secretly still getting that feeling in the pit of my stomach that I need to be with a girl, and to feel that emotional connection with them. I think this is because my year relationship has made me kind of feel like I am craving girls. This really hurts because my boyfriend has no idea how I feel, and I am too scared to tell him in case he sees me differently. I have a gay friend who advices me to come out to him, because he loves me and will except me for who I am but I am terrfied. My parentss would not except it, and I know my sister would never talk to me again. This is making me really down, I don't know what to do.”
Posted by Chelsea on 17th Apr at 11:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 19, and have had two relationships with women and two with men. I feel more comfortable with women, but I don't know if it's because I find that a lack of experience makes straight sex quite scary for me. I don't know if I'm gay, or if I just have an emotional attraction to women. I feel pressured to know because I'm an adult now.”
Posted by India on 15th Apr at 11:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
I knew from a very young age i was gay, even in primary school i spent more time chasing the girls playing kiss catch than the boys! I felt really inapropriate and awkward and did absolutely everything to hide the fact that i was attracted to the same sex. It took me untill i was 17 to actually come out, which for me seemed i'd waited way too long. Everyone was really excepting (even the people that i honestly thought would have a problem didn't) i guess it turns out that people like you for the person you are not the people you sleep with. My family arnt really behind me but i have so many other people around me that it really isnt so bad. Coming out is deffinately the best thing to do, its a weight lifted and everything feels right afterwards :)”
Posted by Helen on 14th Apr at 10:01AM (flag as inappropriate)
I totally agree, I hate it when people just assume that because im gay i will fancy every boy i know and are therefore uncomfortable being around me. My mum was a bit weird when i came out, she started trying to set me up with some girl, however my older sister has been very supportive and spoke to her about it and now my mum is fine with it. my dad was fine from the start.”
Posted by Duncan on 10th Apr at 1:10AM (flag as inappropriate)
My story is very similar to this, I always knew from 14 that i was into girls, and i had my first girlfriend at 15, i never told anyone about this because i was ashamed and confused. I am now 19 and im out and proud,coming out to my parents was never something that i wanted to do but its who i am, when i told my mum, she cried a little, ad stereotyped me into the category immediately of a butch lesbian and asked if i was going to cut my hair off, my dad was completely fine with it, ihe sad he as proud but i think that both my parents always knew. Coming out to my friends i thought would be a lot worse, as i was unaware of their reactions, i came out when i started uni and my best friends reaction couldnt of been better, she just said "So What" and the reaction from my uni friends was amazing, one of them actually cheered and said that were normal cos theres a gay in our group. All my friends have been very supportive, my mum still thinks its a phase but she just needs time.
I also found that once i was out, i was more myself, the person who i wanted to be cos i knew that the people i loved still loved me for me, yes there was a few friends who i lost but at the end of the day they obviusly wernt that valable.”
Posted by fiona on 10th Apr at 12:54AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 17. When I was 11 I had my first crush on a girl and I told my mum, she told me it was a perfectly normal phase (recently she's told me it quite shocked her lol). I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now and I'm just so confused. I think I'm gay but at the same time it'll break my heart to leave him even though I know it's right. I have a female friend who I've slept with a few times and it just feels so different to with my boyfriend, it turns me on, I enjoy it. I feel like I'll never come out, at the moment I just hide under the label 'bisexual'.”
Posted by Laura on 8th Apr at 11:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
I told my mum I was bi sexual at age13 she told me it was a phase and I'd get over it.. it was only recently age 18 I told her it wasn't a phase and she has accepted it better than thought.. All of my friends are fine with it.. My girlfriend is going through the coming out stages and finding it very hard. I would be lying if I said it isn't putting a strain on our relationship, the lying to people and act like I'm something I'm not some of the time is hard, but people need support in times like these.. I think a great qoute for this is... People that are bothers don't matter and people matter don't care. You are you and you shouldn't have to change for nobody.”
Posted by Janine. on 7th Apr at 3:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
My mates think EXACTLY the same, i'm bisexual, and they all think i'll try to go out with them, etc, and I understand what she means, it's really annoying”
Posted by Sean on 6th Apr at 8:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
i told my mum on the telephone when i was 15 and she was fine about it she told me tht she already knew when i told my dad he still has not accepted and all my good friends are women and they love it”
Posted by steven on 5th Apr at 11:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
I can imagine my parents being awful if i was a lesbian! Some parents just cant accept it! And there are so many immature stereotypes surrounding girls. I went to a girls school and even though i am not gay there were rumors going around that i was probably because i wasn't a girlie girl and because i have a very affectionate personality. There are so many stupid stereotypes that need to be broken down!”
Posted by Margret on 5th Apr at 12:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 20 and bi. i went out for almost years with my best friend. all my friends know and they're all great with it..i have quite a few friends who have come out as gay so we love going gay clubbing , especialy as i live in brighton. its so gay friendy. i havent come out to my parents as i have no idea how they feel about it. they think my uncle is gay but i dnt know how feel. they seem ok with it. i think my sister knows so i may tell her first. i also dnt know HOW to tell them.. my ex's mum said she would have appreciated a letter so she could take it all in first.”
Posted by Em on 5th Apr at 12:14AM (flag as inappropriate)
I think thats what my mum would do if i told her that im bisexual. I think she would be like yours, "your to feminine" but she has always said that she would be to bothered if one of her daughters were gay. xx”
Posted by Chloe on 4th Apr at 7:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
i think you are really brave and that your true friends are the ones you should stick to”
Posted by ben on 3rd Apr at 9:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 16 and i am not sure about my sexuality although these days that seems like quite a cliche! i had a few boyfriends a while a go and i am still a virgin. the thought of having sex with a guy or even an intimate relaitionship seems to put me off slightly whereas i am comfortable around girls and i have kissed one of my friends before which was quite nice!!
i just wanted some advice about how people found out they were gay because i really dont know and i think it is quite distressing not to know where you are in your sexuality, i was going to post a question but they dont give you enough words and i wanted to elaborate!
if anyone can give me any pointers it would be much appreciated
thanks!”
Posted by Georgina on 3rd Apr at 5:28PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 16 years old and i got my first girlfriend when i was 14, i always thought i was gay but wasn't sure. My parents are fine with and have never had any hassle at school, apart from the odd questions. I came out as bi when i was 14 so it would be more accepting, then i decided when i started dating a girl from school i should come out as fully gay and still don't get any trouble. It just feels natural for me.”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 3rd Apr at 1:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 17 and agree with everything u have just said i am a lesbian my mums says its a phase but i no its not ive know since i was 13.”
Posted by lou on 2nd Apr at 10:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 17, ive known im gay since i was abt 15, i told my best friend and my sister one ngt but they jst said 'no your not!' and thats as far as ive got :( i wish i could jst get it over and done with and move on with my life but it jst never seems to be the right time! im crazy about this girl but dont want to ruin our current friendship by coming out, i think i jst need to find some courage and get it over with??”
Posted by emma on 2nd Apr at 9:33PM (flag as inappropriate)
i came out as a lesbian when i was 16, i went through a hard time coming to terms to it in myself as my mum is also gay so i always got bullied because of that and i told myself that i couldnt be gay as my mum is. i went out with a couple of lads to try and prove to myself that i wasnt gay but it just made me realise even more that i am. my mum has always been really supportive of me and my dad doesnt care about me being gay at all. i have had alot of abuse from people in the street calling me all sorts, im not really the stereotypical lesbian im not butch but im not really girly either i still get things shouted at me. i dont let it bother me the worst thing you can do is retaliate. coming out was the best thing i have ever done, u feel like a huge weight has been lifted from you and all of your true friends will still be there for you no matter what.”
Posted by hannah on 2nd Apr at 9:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
i think all your oppinions and views on what ur mum and 'friend' said to u r right!!!u can't b stereotyped not to b gay just because u dress feminine!! i used to b bi but didnt come out because i was unsure!! and it was just that experemental stage! i think uv handled it well and i wish u every happiness”
Posted by Ruby on 2nd Apr at 8:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
I never told anyone about it. My mum kinda found out when i was 16 and went completely ballistic at the thought of my being with a girl. She went off the walls went to the police, tried to get an injunction put on this other girl (who was 19) and completely wrecked me. I ended up living a very scared and shattered life, hated being at home and have only ever told 1 person - who i ended up fallin gin love with. This person is 15 yrs older thanme. I am way to scared toever tell my mum because of this reaction. I stil don't feel comfortable with my mum because of everything that went on, and altogether we talk and see each other there's always an underlying feeling between us. I don't know what i'll do long term, but i know that it completely messed up my life because of her reaction.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 9:18AM (flag as inappropriate)
I personally think it is wrong to lable all of thise with gay bisexual or lesbain, those words should not be used, you should just describe yourself as been a lover, gender should not be an issue!”
Posted by Aaron on 2nd Apr at 1:37AM (flag as inappropriate)
im 16 , i came out about three months ago ,i got asked about it and i thought im sick of lieng so i told them yeah i am gay now everyone i know , knows im gay and no one has any problem with that my parents are fine with me being gay but they dont like the fact i like older women :S
:)
xxxxxxx”
Posted by emma on 2nd Apr at 12:30AM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been out for ten years this year i am 24 now, i define as lesbian, but when i was younger i had sex with a lot of men and enjoyed it, but in my eyes i am lesbian because i love women, men for me are friends with benefits. a lot of people struggle with this opinion, because they feel the need for me to define myself. i thought i would write about this because i know others will be thinking what am i, but there is no need to define, you are you, beautiful and wonderful and human. A PERSON!!! life and love is about being happy and comfortable and not being pressured about anything.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 12:15AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 16 and so crazily in love with my girlfriend/bestfrie nd, but i'm just so confused, i know with her i'm the only girl she has ever been with or attracted too but that isn't the same for me, i suppose i'm just scared incase she realised it's just a phase for her, but she is the slightly more intense one, she is the one that talks about our future together and wanting to be together for as long as we can, probably doesn't help that noone else knows about us, maybe the only reason we've lasted is because we're just in this perfect little bubble, the thought of telling anyone scares me, but im so in love with her i would do anything.”
Posted by Sara on 1st Apr at 11:28PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 years old, & I first came out to my mum when I was 15. She hated it & gave me grief about it, thinking it was because I didn't have a boyfriend that I had to resort to girls or something. Not the case. I liked boys, too. But as time passed, I realised that I was not bi, but gay. I told my mum this whilst in a serious relationship with an ex girlfriend, & she hated it too, but when she saw me with her, got to know her & realised that I was happy, it all went out the window. I told all my friends when I was 15. They didn't even care, I was the one who cried! My dad doesn't talk about it, best left that way I guess!
I found it a lot easier to be myself & to be more confident around people once I'd come out, because I felt like I wasn't keeping this filthy secret anymore. Don't get me wrong, I know it's hard, because I cried & cried for years without telling anyone & wrote in my diary how sick & disgusting I was. But it's not wrong, & it's not sick. You fall in love with who you fall in love with, it's only human to have emotion & sexual desire, regardless at which gender it's directed to. If you didn't have that, then something's really wrong!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 10:35PM (flag as inappropriate)
I cant come out to my parents , they are anti-gay...my sister asked my mum once, what would you do if me or lou were gay, she said she would dis-own us :(”
Posted by Lou on 1st Apr at 10:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 16 years old and bisexual. i have been in several relationships with women, but have not come out to my mum yet. my friends all know but they accept it because i have several gay, bi or lesbian friends. i want to tell my mum but i am unable to because she is very homophobic and says that she will not accept her children to be anything other than straight. i want to tell my mum but i am unable to tell her because of her homophobia, it feels like the ryt tym n if i dnt tel her now then i never will. im just frustrated because i have to be a different person when im at home, can anyone help me find a way to tell her?”
Posted by Alice on 1st Apr at 10:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 15.
I think i might be bisexual. I'm not sure.
I have had a relationship with a boy and i do fancy boys but i also have the same kinds of feelings for girls. Sometimes i think i prefer girls more. I havent told anyone cos i'm too scared of being judged but i want to be comfortable with who i am.
I like girls and i'm proud of it.”
Posted by Effy on 1st Apr at 9:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 14. I've sort of 'come out' and said i was bisexual. Yet I've told one perosn who truley belives me. And the rest think it's a complete joke. I know that they think its stupid. Ive been called a lesbian many times when infact I have dated boys. I havent had sex with anyone. But i have made out with a girl, and thats the girl that knows my true self.”
Posted by Paige on 1st Apr at 12:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
Although I knew I was a lesbian from an early age I didn't come out to my parents until I was almost 30. They were pretty shocked & ashamed about it at first, but now 2 years later, they accept me for who I am. It is a relief that everything is out in the open & there can be happy endings as my girlfriend & I recently got married.”
Posted by Michelle on 1st Apr at 12:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 21 years old and came out Gay when I was 19 years old it took me a long time to do this as I thought i would distraught my family. I always remember the day when my uncle and Grandad were sitting in the room and i just burst out and told them I was Gay and I like women I rember them just laughing they didn t beleive me. So I left it for a while and told my Mam she was really distraught infact she ran out off the house. She came up into my bedroom the next day and said she understood after talking to a friend off hers for advice. It took a while till i told my friends as I knew my best friend was homophobic to tell her was upsetting she is starting to accept it now though. Its took a while but I finally feel great about my sexuality and very open about it everyone knows and accepts me now.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 10:24AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am confidently lesbian. I have known that I was different from the other girls since I was very young. Now at the age of 14 I am in a happy and caring relationship with a girl my age. We are so deeply in love we even plan to be married one day. We have been together for 2 years. My dad knows but I am terrified to tell my mum. I just know she wont understand . . I am quite masculine and not in any way feminine.
I have kissed a boy and it made me feel physically ill. But when I kiss my girlfriend it seems so natural and beautiful, there is no doubt in my mind.
I hope that people who are unsure can come to a conclusion and be happy with who they are
xxx”
Posted by Sam on 31st Mar at 10:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have told my friends about me being a lesbian and now the whole school knows and i get bullied from it and those girls say suff like "o watch out i she might come onto you" but just because i fancy girls doenst mean i fancy every girl i come across. in this class at school it is full of girls and one of them i really fancy and 3 of my close friends knew but now it has got to my other friends and if this girl i fancy finds out then i would be in a really auqward situation as i have this lesson 4 times a week
what can i do?”
Posted by rachel on 31st Mar at 7:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
i agree with what michelle says about 'you can be married and turn out gay' cos thats what happened with my mum, i always did think she would be though because of her past relationships with men and marriage but she now has a partner. it took me so long to come out to my friends, but all of them accept it and are fine with it, it was really tough for me however because some people make fun of things like that. but at the end of the day were all human and it doesnt matter who you like as long as they make you happy. also, they should not be stereotyped as not feminine, butch etc. because alot of my boy mates think my mum dresses really well and so no stereotyping is involved.
x
x”
Posted by rach on 31st Mar at 7:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi im 13 and i am preitty sure that i am bisexual but im not quite sure how to come out i really want to talk to someone but my mum just thinks that it is just a fashion statement at the moment and i dont want to talk to her. most of my friends are homophobic and think that i will fancy them. i try to drop hints but that just makes people pick on me. i want to talk to someone but im not sure who.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 6:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 18 years of age and have bin a lesbian about 3 years now but onli within this past year have i come out to alot of people most of them friends at first and i was very shocked and pleased that when i told them they said they loved me just the same, wich made me feel great!. as for family i live with my grandperants and my grandad is very homaphobic! always takes the pee out of my best friend kyle ( who is gay ). but he jokes around about it but deep down kno he is not comfertable. i really would love to tell them but deep down i dont want him to disown me in a way, some of my family know and the ones that do are fine with it. i just wish i could get overh the hurdle of telling them!. maybe one day soon ay!... good luck to others that are planning to come out and the ones that havnt yet, it will happen in time its scarey but youll get throught it,
Love sammi xx”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 6:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out as bisexual to my mum when I was about 12, and she was completely understanding - but was accidentally outed aged 14 at school. However, I've now come out openly as a lesbian (I'm now 16) and no one gives me any trouble, which I have major 'survivor guilt' about =/
I guess I'm just real lucky. Or too under the radar to hit the grapevine =]”
Posted by Kerry on 31st Mar at 6:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi i'm a guy, im 14 and i'm bi
the problem isn't my parents i'm just jewish and there is soo much predjudice against homosexuality in judaism and i'm afriad many of my 'friends' and adults i have grown up with will disown me. so if anyone who is muslim or jewish and came out pleases tell.”
Posted by a on 31st Mar at 5:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
I first accepted I was gay when I was about 15 but I think Id known all my life and just tried to deny it. I told my mum when I was in my first serious relationship with a girl at 16 and it was tough, she claimed to be ok with it but is a staunch catholic and it did put a strain on our relationship. My sister was a nightmare and used to insult me and mock me constantly but my dad was fine about it. 6 years later and my sister is now fine about it, I talk to her the most about it and my mum and dad are accepting of my girlfriends even if they still dont like talking about me being gay. My point is that invariably coming out is hard but lying to people can put more of a strain on you and your family and friends than can being honest. It may take time for people to accept it but in the end they will and if they dont ITS THEIR PROBLEM! Your sexuality does not make you a bad person, it doesnt affect anyone else but you who your attracted to.”
Posted by Leila on 31st Mar at 2:50PM (flag as inappropriate)
ive always had relationships with boys and i am currently in a long-term relationship with a boy, but im still not sure about my sexuality, i have watched lesbian porn whilst masterbating and enjoyed it does this mean im bi-sexual ?”
Posted by j on 31st Mar at 12:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had an consideration that I might be bisexual when I was 13, But at that age everything just says its you finding out about yourself and your not gay and its just a phase. I then had girl on girl experiences when I was 16. I then actually told my friends at 17. My friends were totally ok with it. Also another one of my friends was also bisexual so we confined in each other. I haven’t told my parents yet but I think they might know.”
Posted by Laura on 31st Mar at 10:52AM (flag as inappropriate)
I can remeber when I first "came out" i had prepared it all in my head, what i was going to say and how i would approach it. When I told my mum, the look on her face- I'll never forget it. I Told her when i had my first girlfriend who i totally loved. My mum shouted at me soo much telling me it was just a phase and i was attention seeking, it really hurt. So after that i tryed to box my feelings up and ended up getting councelling because i was so unhappy with who i was. so at new years after a few drinks with my mum i told her, and approached it a bit more delicately this time. she was totally fine with it, said after i told her the first time she had realised all the clues; the way i talked about girls and how i described the way boys made me feel. I feel so much happier now that i can introduce my girlfriends as girlfriends now rather than "Just mates"
My friends were so cool about it, i had no bad reactions from them just pure support. some girls didnt like it because they thought i was "perving" on them in the p.e rooms. but that wasnt what it was like. becuase thats not who i am it really hurt and some boys were so nasty to me but i had to get over it and face up to them. sometimes people still ask me who I think is hot and if i dont know them i dont dignify their question with an answer but if they are my friend then i am happy to share it with them. I actually think that sometimes being brave enough to say your lesbian or bi, makes you a stronger person and people give you more respect for it, however being too open can leave your feelings hurt so you have to be carefull. Dont come out untill you are confident and ready.
xx”
Posted by Lisa on 30th Mar at 10:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
It Was This Time Last Year I Realised I Was Bi-Sexual. It Was Hard To Come To Terms With And I Felt Really Asahamed Of Myself. Around May Of Last Year I Started Seein My First Gf (Who Im Still With) And I Told My Mam About It. She Was Really Unsupportive And Homophobic About The Whole Thing. It Was A Big Disappointment As It Was The Time I Needed Her Most. However Shes Been Really Supportive Recently And I Feel Much More Comfortable With My Sexuality Now. However Some People Can Be Really Mean And Bitchy About Gay, Lesbian Or Bi Sexual People Which I Think Is Just So Childish And Un Neccesary. I'd Just Like To Say To These People Grow Up!”
Posted by Clare on 30th Mar at 10:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 16 years of age and I am truly, madly, deeply in love with another girl. We have been together for almost 4 months now and I couldn't imagine life without her. I came out just after my 15th birthday and most people were fine with it. It was just all the pathetic and ignorant people in school and places like that who "bullied" me over it.”
Posted by Rach on 30th Mar at 9:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've known I am gay since about 10 years old. I came out as bisexual first because it sounded better especially at an all girls school. Both my parents think it's disgusting, but I believe I probably should have been born a boy, it only feels natural to like girls to me.”
Posted by Rachel on 30th Mar at 9:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 17 and I've known that I'm gay since I was 12, I even came out to my close friends at 12 also. I didn't tell my parents until I was 16 and was in a serious relationship with a girl, when I told my Mum, she ignored me for a month and I ended up living with my girlfriend for a bit. The funny thing was though that she broke up with me 'cause I couldn't accept the fact I was gay properly and was uncomfortable being 'gay' in public. Which is true, but I don't want abuse for being who I am.
What I've always found most difficult though is the fact that... if you saw me walking down the street, I'm the least likely person who you'd think is gay...which isn't the stereotypical image of a lesbian, so when everyone found out I was gay many people didn't believe didn't believe I was because of the way I dressed. Which sucks, I shouldn't change myself just to be accepted as gay.”
Posted by Samantha on 30th Mar at 9:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out to my dad when I was 13 nearly 14, he told me that it was "probably" a phase and that I was too young to know. How wrong can you be?
My mother confronted me about being gay when she read my journal (which was a gift from my girlfriend, and the first page was a sweet message from her).
At first she didn't understand, And today she still doesn't understand it all, but she loves me for me. She loves knowing that I'm standing up for what I believe in and what makes me happy. Over all we've had a much better/closer relationship since I came out. I'm now 18, engaged to an amazing girl (the same one who gave me the journal over 2 years ago) and absolutely loving life.
Girls don't need to be ashamed of who they are. There isn't a certain type of lesbian, it could be any girl. Just remember your family and friends are likely to be confused and not understand properly, help them understand. They should accept you. And friends who do not accept you are not worthy of the title "friend".”
Posted by Jessica on 30th Mar at 9:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
anything to do with this topic can be difficult for a person
for the person who is gay its difficult to near impossible to admit it as he/she fears reprisals from their friends, relatives or society
for the reciever in most cases i believe that the admittance of homo/bisexuality is accepted although not always understood
botto m is line is believe in yourself and shine through as the person you are don't hide behind social or family obstacles
be who you are not what you are”
Posted by eddie on 28th Mar at 11:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hello :) I'm 16 years old soon, and havent come out to my parents yet. I'm deeply in love, and in a good relationship with a girl. I think they know, and they always says that it's totally okay for them if I am. All my brothers know, and they all respect and accepts it :) I'm really glad that I can talk to them about it. It's important to have someone to back you up, specially when you go out as homosexual. I haven't yet, not here where I live. Just waiting for the right time, so I don't have to get "bullied" by it by other pathetic youngsters.”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 27th Mar at 8:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi im 14 & bi, i dont know but i think it was about a year ago when i told my god mother, the reason i told her first is that she said to me once that she doesnt care if im gay and that if you want to talk then find her, so i told her and than she told my mam.i get bullied who i am well its really not bullying its just 1 kid being pathetic anyway i love being me my advice is that tell your mum she should respect who you are and if she doesnt well tough monkeys she should
lavz yhoo all
xx”
Posted by Tasha on 15th Nov at 10:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 15 and I'm really confused about what I am. I have had experiences with girls and I really liked it. But I like being with boys as well. But I find that when I'm around girls I can be myself easier than when I'm around boys. But I'm really confused.”
Posted by Amy on 11th Nov at 7:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 17 when I told my parents and friends I was bisexual. Since then I have had many relationships with both genders but will probably settle with a man due to my want for children. I am 22 now and happy with who I am.”
Posted by Maxine on 9th Nov at 8:36PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was sure i was a lesbian from a young age but i didn't come out until i was 17. I did the silly thing of telling my mum in a text message,she still took it fine and is happy. She said she already knew but she was waiting for so long for me to come out and say it myself. After we spoke about it and since then me and my mum have been closer. I was never ashamed of my sexuality,but its the most scary thing in the world thinking how to put it into words. People will be thankful the sooner you do it. Don't live your life in secret be who you are, you're never going to be a different person so why not tell people. After i came out i never looked back and i asked myself why i didn't sooner. I'm still me and everyone is still the same with me. I was a lot happier when i came out so i hope you all can have the experience i did.”
Posted by Katie on 4th Nov at 1:00AM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 13 and i'm lesbien, it was last year when i started having a interest in girl, but it wasnt exactly girls i was into, i was into much older women. well i went around my year and i got talked about for about a week but then people got over it. i just cant tell my parents yet...”
Posted by Abbie on 31st Oct at 1:41AM (flag as inappropriate)
I also think we should try to drop the stereotypical Lesbian. I also agree that you can't help who you fall in love with Male or Female. I think that if it was understood at a young age in a school environment then young people would accept it more. I was extremely bullied for being gay in school and it actually turns out (5 years later) that the bully is also now gay.”
Posted by Michele on 30th Oct at 4:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
hey im 15, i came out last year that i was bisexual, & since coming out i have had alot of girls comment on me, & not take me seriously. i found it easy telling my parents although with my mum she did not seem to pleased and just said it was a phase i was going through, but i think its who you fall in love with, it doesnt matter their sexuality. Love is a feeling that can be shared with both gender. :) xxx”
Posted by sian on 20th Oct at 10:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
my relationship was with a much older woman so i guess that made it much harder. its 3 years on and my mum still isnt accepting but she has started to come round. dad is fine though but telling my friends will be the hardest thing. im worried they will think i fancy them!!!”
Posted by G on 20th Oct at 2:50PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 15 and i havent come out to my parents, but my mom often asks if i fancy girls and i always kinda chuckle and say no and it's not that i'm ashamed cuz i really like this girl who likes me back the same and we're great together but my parents do kinda have this stereotype of gay girls that they're like butch and manly and wear dungarees and want to be builders or what ever which i totally disagree with and have had loadsa arguments with them about it so i think they've guessed but still, when i've like been in the situation to tell them i never find the words to say when she asks or the confidence to because i got picked on at school quite badly for it when i was 14 because i told who i thought was a friend and she spread rumours and such which has really knocked my confidence, so i like really admire people who come out and stuff and i want to but like ya no
guess im not ready for the world to know...
which sucks...”
Posted by tayla on 17th Oct at 11:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 18 years old, and have pretty much known im a lesbian since i was 15. I think the connotations of the word "lesbian" and the stereotypes associated with that made it harder for me to accept at first, as i couldnt really relate to the "butch" stereotype at all. I eventualy came out to my parents 4 months ago, and it went pretty well! im now in uni, and am out to most of my friends. Im pretty open about my sexuality, although its only one small aspect to who I am, I like the idea that by being so open with my sexuality im helping, even if its only a tiney bit, to break down the stereotypes associated with homosexuality, and maybe even make it easier for people to come out in the future.
peace out!!
xxx”
Posted by Rachel on 16th Oct at 11:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 14 and i'm realy confused about what I am. I know everyone says at my age you dont need to know but and you can experiment but I realy want to know what I am. I have a boyfriend who i've been with for quite a while and I realy like him but I also feel realy awkward when i'm around him. On the other hand when i'm with girls I feel so much more comfortable. I also think I might fancy one of my best friends but
I don't know if this is just a phase or whether I am bi or a lesbian.”
Posted by Emily on 16th Oct at 9:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 13 and i'm a bisexual.
I found it really easy to come out to my friends, but can't tell my parents, beaucse im scared how thay'll take it.”
Posted by Lorna on 16th Oct at 6:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 17 and Im still really confused about my sexuality. Even when I was younger I got turned on by other girls but because other girls who had come out had been bullied, I just tried to forget about it. All of my friends and other people who are my age seem to be in a relationship, but the thought of going out with a guy makes me feel worried and sick! At my 16th bday party my friends and I got abit drunk. They were all saying they had kissed each other before. We all got abit turned on and started kissing. I had never kissed a guy before that, but had always imagined what it would be like. The thought of having to kiss a guy really panicked me but kissing a girl felt natural and comfortable. All my life I guess Ive secretly known but have never admitted anything because I didnt want to dissapoint and embarass my parents. My Mum is always talking about guys and the fact that I should be seeing someone by now. I really want to let it all out and have a relationship with someone but I dont want to be steriotyped. You are right that people assume you have to be masculine to be a lesbian, im the complete opposite! I hope I can tell someone how I feel one day xxx”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 16th Oct at 1:07PM (flag as inappropriate)
I know im straight but theer is always an aternal question going round my head, are you gay?”
Posted by james on 15th Oct at 8:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
I really love the posts you leave firstly, I always click when I see your face! I hate homophobes (though I am not gay myself) and it's kind of hard at my school because everyone is against gay people and they make gay jokes that are horrible and are not funny and i just think it's so awful. One day people will just get over the fact that different people like different things. Who said girls have to like boys and boys have to like girls in the first place? It's so dumb, and people don't see it but more people than you expect are actually gay. I think it's something like 1 out of 6? But I don't know. As for that girl that spread rumours, you don't need a friend like her :)”
Posted by Heather on 15th Oct at 7:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
well i was 12 when i started to think i was bisexual. I told my three bestfriends, and they were completly fine by it. Then i got to the age of 14 when i finally told my mum, she said "are you sure? you might be going through a phase" which kind of anoyed me because i knew who i was. Then i got my first gf at 14, it was great, but it didnt last long. And now i'm 15 and i have a gf who i have been with for 5 months and because shes older than me, she supported me through telling me rest of my friends which is great. I am now really happy that "most" of my friends have accepted me for who i am. It is really hard to come out, but in the end you feel so much better because not only have you accepted who you are, but the people around you have, which is a great feeling.”
Posted by rebecca on 14th Oct at 11:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 16. It's funny because my mum has always wanted me and my brother to be gay for the pure fact she doesn't want gran children... My brother is well, homophobic, racist and all that kind of stuff mostely because he joined the army. I don't know if I'm actually bisexual or not When I masturbate i think of both women and men and i have been attracted to woman but never let it lead anywhere because i know my friends would react not badly but things would be said by others and I know my life with my friends would change. I'm very open about sex and i think if i told my best friend that i am possibly Bi that she would chnage and so maybe I don't want a friend like that but I'm worried that if I'm not and I'm just bicurious that I would loose her and people around me would become distant and malicious . ??”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th Oct at 9:48PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 'out' to my closest friends & family, however, don't yet, feel comfortable enough to shout it from the roof tops!,but do want to be happy & if the situation does arrive. I will just have to accept its become common knowledge?.......al though, I'd still rather it wasn't common knowledge. afterall its nobody's business!!”
Posted by Steven on 14th Oct at 8:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out as bi at 14 because at the time i thought i was! I had dysfunctional relationships with boys until i was 18 and met a lesbian, having never met one before! and i started a long and successful relationship with her. It was only at this point that i told my mum who said "don't you like boys?" to which i said "well, i've had boyfriends". and to this day i've never labelled myself to my parents, and I don't feel a need to. I am now with my second girlfriend and we have been together for 2 years. I can never imagine having a relationship like this with a man, everyone says we are like a married couple, and we do everything together. I never had sex with a boyfriend, just a string of one night stands which left me confused and depressed. I went to a Catholic school which failed to teach me anything about sex and relationships beyond abstinence, marriage and the evils of abortion. I came out to my friends in yr10 and there were lots of questions but no-one bullied me, my head of year freaked out and made it into a bad situation because she didnt bother to talk to me about how i felt and what reactions i had received. Schools need to wake up and get on board, accepting that you may have gay pupils is not promoting gay lifestyles or contradicting the christian faith. Quest is an organisation for gay catholics... if you find yourself in a similar situation!
x”
Posted by Roz on 14th Oct at 8:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 16 and recently came out to my parents. I had known for a long time that i was gay but i had a hard time accepting it and how others would accept it.. i had been in relationships with men and one of them was quite serious but i always knew it wasn't right, it wasnt comfortable for me being with a guy. the first time i kissed a girl i knwe it was right for me. i told my friends first and they all took it fine which i was happy about.. they said they already knew!! but when i told my parents they kind of acted as though it was a phase and it would go away but i guess they will have to deal with it and know it isnt a phase one day...”
Posted by sarah on 14th Oct at 8:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 22 years old and came out to my mum at age 19 when I met my girlfreind and I have been with her ever since. We got engaged last valentines and are very happy together. I realise I have been lucky but I was not without my problems before coming out. I struggled with feeling different all through school and developed bulimia and depression. Coming out was the best choice I have ever made and I am soo greatful to all my family and freinds for being so understanding.”
Posted by Debbie on 14th Oct at 8:07PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 16 and i came out wen i was 13, i have a beautifull girlfriend who i have been with for a year and a half! my mum and dad were not happy at all they tell me its a phase and i am been stupid. i tell then i love been me and i know my feelings i would change me for the world i love and i am proud to be a lesbian! my mates were not bothered at all they all say i wouldnt be me if i was not gay!wen i meet people i tell then as soon as i can to help and cnfushon it the future! i wouldnt change and most of all i wouldnt want to i love been diffrent xx”
Posted by kim on 14th Oct at 8:07PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 15 now and i feel for my friends that are not gay. i have a bestfriend sarah and i really genuinley care about her but she doesnt know that i feel for her in that way. i wish i could tell her but i told 1 friend i was gay and i got picked on. then i said i was joking because the bullying was so intense,what do i do. i want sarah to know how i feel about her but i dont want to get bullied once again, im really scared.”
Posted by carla on 14th Oct at 8:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am a bisexual girl and i go to a beauty college that is full of girls and i dont feel confident enough to tell them as they may think that i am looking at them when we are doin treatments on them my mum and dad know and all my family they aint botherd but im just botherd about my friends”
Posted by danielle on 14th Oct at 7:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am a proud lezibien. All my friends know. They sadly abbandoned me. I have no friends, my mum and dad kicked me out when i was 18 (On my B-day i told them)
I know this all sounds horrible but i have come out of all this a better person.”
Posted by Margo on 14th Oct at 4:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out maybe a year or two ago amd was very quiet about it, until i met my current group of friends who are very open people, lucky for me. all of my close friends know and my boyfriend, that i am bisexual, because i am very very open about. in school i'm always joking about kissing lots of girls and a couple of guys. XD but my friend circle none of us are 100% straight and i find it very lucky that i know so many open people. all i can say is that you should be open and not listen to what others say. :-)”
Posted by Sam on 13th Oct at 5:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
Well im now nearly 19 years old and im very much gay... i told my mum when i was 14 years old and she was fine with it.... she told me she didnt care if i loved a man a woman, someone black someone white as long as i was happy. As for my friends i cant say the same some of my friends denied that i even existed why others were like omg thats so cool... i now am with my gf who i have been with for 10 months now i am so in love and i couldnt imagine ever being with a guy again they just dont attract me in that way .... my family have had time to accept it and whether they do or not is entirly up to them... i am gay and i will never be anything else!”
Posted by Kirsty on 11th Oct at 4:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
Well im now nearly 19 years old and im very much gay... i told my mum when i was 14 years old and she was fine with it.... she told me she didnt care if i loved a man a woman, someone black someone white as long as i was happy. As for my friends i cant say the same some of my friends denied that i even existed why others were like omg thats so cool... i now am with my gf who i have been with for 10 months now i am so in love and i couldnt imagine ever being with a guy again they just dont attract me in that way .... my family have had time to accept it and whether they do or not is entirly up to them... i am gay and i will never be anything else!”
Posted by Kirsty on 11th Oct at 4:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
my friends think i'm joking when i talk about lesbianism or bisexuality. they dont know about the fantacys i have and one regular one is of my two old best friends and me, though all i ever did is kiss one - but got quite intamate with the other, and did not hide this from anyone. i think people know but i havnt quite anounced it yet. yesterday in the car i told mom the reason i split with one on my ex's a few years ago was that i thought i was bi, but i denyed being bi when she asked what the verdict was. if i could find a girlfriend that i wanted to be serious with, i'd anounce it quite happily.”
Posted by louise on 10th Oct at 8:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
when i came out to my mum and dad they were both fine with it but when my girlfreinds mum found out that she was gay she stopped us seeing eachother which is hard.all of our friends were fine with it and accepted it straight away.”
Posted by hannah on 10th Oct at 6:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
I agree with you why do people sterio type people to be very masculine if there gay! I had a sexual experience with a woman when i was 18 and loved it but i didnt der come out so stuck being un happy with men!”
Posted by Jodi on 10th Oct at 12:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
well i'm 14 years old and i started off as bisexual about a year and a half ago, eventually coming out a being ah full lesbian, i have never really had a problem with friends, but my family found out before i was ready to tell them and havn't come to terms with accepting it yet, but i learnt to live with it, i am who i am and i'm proud of it, my girlfriend and i have have been together 5 months now and we couldn't be happier people look at us strange when we hold hands or kiss in school but we hold our heads high and walk on. we're proud. there's nothing to be ashamed of.”
Posted by Shannon on 7th Oct at 9:28PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out when i was 16, my mum at 1st said, was i sure it wasnt just a phase, and then said she kinda thought it for a while anyway. my dad said "kids these days do anything to keep up with fashion!" they are both fine with it as long as i dont blantantly display it in front of them which is fair enough. my nan (who is in her 70's) is fine about it and just said "you are my grandaughter, i love you, so if you are happy, i'm happy". my friends were just shocked coz at bout 13 i was really into a guy from a boyband, and used 2 go on about guys but sum of it was just to cover up being gay 4 a while. but everyone is cool with it. im lucky with that really, sum1 i no whos gay, her dad who says she has an "illness"!”
Posted by kerry on 7th Oct at 8:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
I first came out as 'bisexual' to my mother when I was 13 years old. I had known for about a year prior to this, and as a 12 year old, I was quite naive and thought I should be proud of who I was (which is not untrue- just at the age of 12, who knows who they really are?) and not think of the repercussions of my peers who were still very young and harboured young people's prejudices. I was a victim severe bullying for the next 4 years. I was very depressed- I had definately chosen the wrong time to come out. At the age of 16 I realised I was definately gay, and I told my mother this, but not my dad, because I had always thought of him to be extremely narrow minded. Only now, at the age of 17 and in a serious relationship with the most perfect girl I have ever met, have I been able to come out to my dad. I've also finally accepted things myself. I just in a way regret broadcasting it so much and giving myself a hard time throughout my school life, although it has made me stronger. And I couldn't be prouder to be who I am today, with amazing friends, at college with no problems, and with an incredible girlfriend.
If you're having a hard time, don't listen to the haters.
They won't be part of your lives forever.
<3”
Posted by Laura on 7th Oct at 8:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 14 when i realsied i am bisexual and 15 nearly 16 before i 100% admitted it to even myself. I told so called friends when i was 15 but im apparently a pervert these days!! Theyre only 16/17 so have the childish approach. Im 19 now and only my sister and brother in law know and theyre fine with it. I cant bring myself to tell any of my family as theyre very homophobic.. I have a boyfriend and he doesnt know and due to past comments i dont intend to tell him! Although im with a guy i am who i am and i will always have feelings for women, i must admit the bigger part of me likes women and probably always will...I just never know where to start looking!! xxx”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 6th Oct at 12:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
In a modern society in general bisexuality is alot more accepted within family and peer units due to the chance of you actually settling down with the 'correct' sex and returning to normality.
i came out when i was 18 and i lost my virginity to a girl, my mum always told me even as a child she would love me no matter what, but sayin those words and actually commiting is completely different, she cared more about what other people thought than anything else so it became taboo, we aren't as close anymore and it's a shame because why should she love me anyless for who i'm attracted to when her partners have been less than suitable for her”
Posted by Sophie on 3rd Oct at 10:36PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive been out as gay since i was 14 and have never had a problem with mates or family so ive been very lucky in that way! the only trouble i ever had was when i was at school but i jus learned to ignore it eventually! Im now 22 and have been with my girlfriend for 4 years and got married last month :) so hang in there every1 it'll all turn out well in the end!
xxxx”
Posted by Alana on 30th Sep at 9:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 14 and considering myself to be bisexual, my mum is a lesbian but i really don't think my sexuality is anything to do with her. My mum doesn't know how i'm feeling as i we're not very close. All of my friends are being very supportive of me, none of them seem to care but i have found that all boys tend to back off. It's understandable but still annoying”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 30th Sep at 9:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am a Lesbian and I came out to my family and friends when I was 16. My mother said she always new but my sister who is three years older then me does not understand it. My sister stoped talking to me for about 7 months and it that time was non stop crying over the fact that she has a gay little sister. We talk now but not about girlfriends or anything personal which is really sad as I'm 24 now and I am so happy and in love with my girlfriend and we are looking into having a civil partnership. It makes me really sad that I cant share this big part of life with my only sister who if you put my sexuality aside is extreamly kind harted and I could not ask for a better sister. 8 years down the line since I came out and she cant get over it and I dont think she ever will.”
Posted by Emma on 30th Sep at 8:48PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive been out as gay since i was 14 and have never had a problem with mates or family so ive been very lucky in that way! the only trouble i ever had was when i was at school but i jus learned to ignore it eventually! Im now 22 and have been with my girlfriend for 4 years and got married last month :) so hang in there every1 it'll all turn out well in the end!
xxxx”
Posted by Alana on 30th Sep at 8:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive been out as gay since i was 14 and have never had a problem with mates or family so ive been very lucky in that way! the only trouble i ever had was when i was at school but i jus learned to ignore it eventually! Im now 22 and have been with my girlfriend for 4 years and got married last month :) so hang in there every1 it'll all turn out well in the end!
xxxx”
Posted by Alana on 30th Sep at 8:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 15 and I've considered myself 'bisexual' from about 12, but I now think that was just to appear 'open minded'. I've recently struggled with the fact that I'm gay, but I've got a few friends who are gay and are helping me get to terms with it. I have yet to say it firmly to my best friends, and my parents haven't heard a whisper! Whenever I mention something people think I'm joking, because I used to be like that.”
Posted by Natalie on 23rd Sep at 8:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
first a rumour went around about me and mate, she's straight and I'm bi, and then a few of my mates didn't believe me and then they spread more rumours.
and then the whole school (including teachers) knew. and where ever i went people knew me a 'the lesbian' they always asked if i was lesbian and i said no im bi and then they always said no you're not you're lesbian. it annoyed me that they asked me but still didn't believe me.
i attempted to tell my mum but she jsut denied it and we haven't spoke about it since. my dad will never know (very homophobic) and my brother's known from the very start as he is also bi (lol)”
Posted by caitlin on 23rd Sep at 8:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
Well im 16 and im a lesbian, i knew for a very long time that i was gay and have been out for a couple of years now. I told my mum first and she just said im going through a phase but my dad was fine with it and said he knew anyway. I didn't come out to all my friends at first as i didn't know how they would react so i only told the ones really close to me then told everyone, i got alot of trouble at first my so called mates where giving me abuse and assumed i facny them but that soon stopped and they are now fine with it, i get alot of weird looks and comments about the way i look and dress as i have short hair and dress boyish and often get mistaken for a boy but im not boverd im happy with the way i look. I think coming out at school is hard as no one really understands but when you get to college its completely different me and my girlfriend will walk around holding hands and kissing and no one cares which i thing it sould be like anyway”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 23rd Sep at 8:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
I think I've always known I fancy girls as well as guys. When I went to secondary school, I kinda casually talked about it with friends, but hadn't told anyone important to me. It was bugging me for about 3 months, so told my cousin and she was really understanding… And after that I built up the courage to tell Mum. She believes it’s just a phase, and that really angers me, but what can you do?! I do get some nasty comments about it, but what 13.Y.O Bisexual girl in an all girl school won’t?!”
Posted by Vicki on 21st Sep at 3:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
well i am a girl and have just turned 15 i have known i am a lesbian for a long time now and have only just plucked up the courage to tell anyone.the first person i told was my nan as i live with her and believed i could trust her and i told her and she thought it was funny.i then approched my mum and dad with the issue and they were perfectly ok with it and talked things over but i still havent found the courage to tell my best mate as she might be weirded out by the whole situation”
Posted by jade on 17th Sep at 7:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've still not told my parents that i'm bisexual! I told my friends when I was about 15 and i'm now almost 19. My female friends constantly tell me i'm not bisexual which does annoy me as they haven't got a clue what goes on in my head but hey! Dreading the day I tell my parents.. well if! Haha.”
Posted by Kara on 16th Sep at 11:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 16 and have had an interest in women from the age of 11 and have never had the same sexual attraction to men. I'm not sure if its a phase or not though as many of my friends have gone through the whole 'experimental' stage and have emerged straight. I generally just feel confused and lost.”
Posted by Elle on 16th Sep at 10:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
Be your self it's your life, if other people have a problem that's there problem,
Alway's put your self first No 1.
never ever last and get on and enjoy your life,'Sod them all' your only here once, as far as I know, best of luck pauline”
Posted by pauline on 10th Sep at 7:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im not sure if Im gay I feel confused and do get turned on by girls sometimes Im only 16. but my dad is gay and left my mum for another man how can I talk to her that I think Im gay?”
Posted by Laura on 10th Sep at 3:54PM (flag as inappropriate)