“I have never been sure of my sexuality one hundred percent. ”
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This video mentions sexual identity, love, and gay
I didn’t even know what a gay person was until I was 18, 19 and then to me it was completely alien.”
“I have never been sure of my sexuality one hundred percent. ”
“I sort of started being attracted to women and I suppose went through my lesbian stage for a few years. And then I went through my bisexual stage.”
“By the age of 9 I was aware that I had definite interests in, as some would say, the male section of the catalogue rather than the female.”
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hey, i had a notion that i was gay from the age of 12 as well...im 17 now and have managed to find my girlfriend and have never benn happy, we will be going out for a year soon.
so just like this person love is possible, but it may take you years or decades to find the right person for you. they are out there you just have to be patient i guess”
Posted by kaya on 23rd Jun at 7:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
hey
I am 15 and I am gay. I first realised I was gay at the age of 12. Thats very young I know. It is only due to the fact I fancied boys more that girls. The only thing I don't like about being gay is all the bulling in school and all the hassle, that comes with being gay. I wish I Just could Find someone that loves me for me? Is that possible.?”
Posted by Robert on 17th Jun at 10:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 20 now and came out when i was 15! i saw coming out more as a means for being able to be open with people, and less about it being part of my identity as such.
However, I was able to be truthful with people for the first time! Being able to talk frankly about orientation is a good means to keep safe too, i had one friend in particular who didn't come out until he had tragically already contracted HIV- he was scared of people's reactions and instead met randoms for sex on a regular basis in secrecy.
I agree with some of the other posts on here...heterosexual sex seems to be the only sex that is tought about, all the rest of us are left to find out about it by ourselves. I feel this is particularly dangerous especially with gay men, as gay sex is very high risk. The only information i had to go off on was just what people said (in a mostly derogetory sense) during high school. For a supposedly modern and tolerant society, i still don't understand why old fashioned British reserve seems to prevail in this matter! People need to know the facts!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 7th Apr at 3:20AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 and i knew i was gay from the age of 15 but i was unsure due to my upbringing. I first came out as bisexual but then generally realised i was gay. Now i wouldnt change it for the world as it has become part of my identity and theres nothing at all wrong with it.
I think there isnt really enough education about homosexuality in schools and i hate the fact that it is always frowned upon.”
Posted by Danny on 4th Apr at 1:05AM (flag as inappropriate)
ive been very curious for a while now to whether im bi or just gay im still a virgin in all aspects so i dont know how it feels to be with any sex, but i allways seem to get more turned on by men, i dont plan on comming out at the moment because as ive said im not completely sure but i have strong feelings that i will do in the future. any help would be great!”
Posted by Rich on 3rd Apr at 11:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 17 and i came out when i was 15. I got slagged off at school but to be honest i dont really care. i knew my friends would stick up for me and be there for me. I was beat up one day by someone i didnt know because i was gay. I would rather be gay that narrow minded =)
x”
Posted by Scott on 2nd Apr at 10:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
As far as coming out goes, I was forced out of the closet. I told a couple of my closest friends and nobody else, not even my parents. It wasn't because I was afraid of what they'd say, though, it was because I was unsure at the time. I started off thinking I was bi-sexual, liking males and females, I'd never had problems with relationships with females, though I found it almost frightening to get close to a female physically. After browsing the internet for stories similar to mine, I decided to try and find someone I was close to who was also gay/bi, just to experiment. It was probably the strangest first experience of my life, there was no nervous or worry I felt completely comfortable doing such simple things as kissing him or a bit of harmless groping.
After I'd told the few people that I did, one of them was rather shocked, and had this 'I'll tel one person who won't tell anyone' attitude. In high school, this actually means 'I'll tell one person who i think won't tell anyone else who'll actually tell someone else they think won't tell anyone' And the snowball gets bigger.
In the space of about 2 hours my whole high school knew I was a bisexual. I was bricking it. So many homophobic people coming up to me and verbaly abusing me. High school thereon after was a difficult time for me, but I had my friends and I knew I could succeed if I just ignored them. It's not easy, I can tell you that much.
As time progressed, and my experimenting with males continued, I found it increasingly more appealing to do said things with guys. I did try to go back to girls, but there was nothing anymore. I had no desire to see a girl naked, or for breasts or anything else even mildly related to a sexual act.
I'm now in college training to be a Games Developer and I'm happy with the decisions I made in the past, I regretted telling anyone at the time, but it let the real me come out.”
Posted by Mat on 1st Apr at 1:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 15 and I came out to all my friends when i was 13 and when people in school come upto me and was like "are you gay" I would be like, no... then when i was 14, my friends still knew i was gay obviously but if people asked me I'd be like i'm bi which I wasn't I just wanted to hint hint I like men, but I still got alot of greif from it. then in year 11 when people I asked I'd be like yeah I am, then they'd respond with the "Eeeeeeaaaaaaaarrrr ..." that's only a few though, the others where like oh ok. but the one guy I'd never forget who I hate... came upto me and slapped me round the face when I was talking about my sexuality with some close friends... but my parents know and so do my friends and the school, and the teachers so no one else to tell ^^ but seriously if you have girl chums, tell the first there so brill and supportive!”
Posted by Luke on 31st Mar at 11:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18, and actually have just told my mum within the last week that I'm gay. Shes ok with it, saying that she had thoughts, afterall she has known me my whole life. Now shes pressuring me to tell my dad and other family members, and I feel that, if I've waited this long to tell her, I can do the rest on my own time.”
Posted by Anthony on 31st Mar at 11:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
Heya. I'm 16 now, and I live and go to shcool in London. I came out when I was 14, in year 9, which apparently was very ' brave '. Being London the school was a very homophobic place, with the term gay being used as a bad slang word, as it is used often elsewhere. Although I did get a lot of outright bullying to begin with, I felt alot better within myself and with the friends that had stuck by me, so I learnt to ignore it. I wouldn't change anything about coming out if I could, because I was the first person to come out in 20 years at the school after a boy called Matthew was murdered over being gay there. About 6 months later after I came out someone else in the school did as well, and since then another 9 people have, one of them being my best friend!
My advice would be to be truthful with yourself, and especially your closest friends. If some of your friends have a problem with it or turn against you, they obvious weren't very good friends in the first place!”
Posted by Joey on 31st Mar at 7:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
Well, for me, it was really awkward; I came out to my parents at 15, I'm 17 now, and I came out to my friends during my GCSE's. It was awkward for me, but my friends said that they already knew, as did my parents. And though I got bullied before I came out for "being gay", even though they didn't know for certain, when I did come out, people didn't care. Everyone just knows me for who I am now, and it doesn't affect people's views on me, in fact, I've never been as open and happy with people as I am now.”
Posted by David on 31st Mar at 3:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi everyone,
I have been out nor for nearly 2 years but found it really difficult to come out as my sister is a lesbian. however, i found the best way to come out was to tell someone you don't know very well such as a friend of a friend and see how it feels. This si what i did and it dtarted to give me confidence as i thought if i can tell onw person why not another. it worked for me so see if it does for you! All the best and good luck to you, you can do it :D”
Posted by Jack on 30th Mar at 10:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im gay and 16. i had a bad coming out experience wherein my mom found my diary, i got home from school and my mom said "got something to tell me?" and i nearly cried!i thought she would hate me and take the piss, but actualy she was amazing! she loves the fact i can be who i want to be, im lucky i have amother who loves it and loves someone to go shopping with but for others who dont it must be so hard.”
Posted by Christopher on 30th Mar at 9:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 15 and i'm gay,i havent told anyone and i'm scared to tell my parents incase what there reaction is both to my parents and my friends”
Posted by Jamie on 16th Nov at 1:32AM (flag as inappropriate)
Yeh i agree im bi and i am 16, not came out yet and were i come from everyone is hard to everyone. It is hard but most of my frinds know - we have wanking compations, but no one cares. Where im from is the hardest part of the town so i know ill get beat up. Comment below. ill take it one step at the time .”
Posted by Ryan on 15th Oct at 11:46AM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi james sorry you are being picked on at school i to was picked on very badly all the way through school so much so that would not go, but you hang in thier get your head do well, and when you get to colaage which i hope you do thier might be a gay student union which you can join, but stop worry about coming out thier is to much presure on every body these days about coming out to early when thiers no need. i know it feels very loanly some times but you can make it even worse sometimes uy rushing into things to soon.”
Posted by Simon on 15th Oct at 5:52AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 15 and i am gay but i have not come out yet and i cant tell no one beucase of where i live people get beaten up fot been gay bi or even lesbion it is realy hard at school in people bullying me becasuse i am gay but if people new i was gay i would get beaten up so it is very hard for gay people.”
Posted by james on 7th Oct at 9:07PM (flag as inappropriate)