“The look on my mums face, she was very distraught and kind of just ignored it and walked away.”
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I phoned everyone that I knew that was of any importance to me, all on the same day. And there were a few people that I had very odd reactions from.”
“The look on my mums face, she was very distraught and kind of just ignored it and walked away.”
“By that time I was certainly aware that I was homosexual and determined that it wasn’t going to be somebody else’s problem, I was keeping it all to myself and all under wraps.”
“In a way it’s harder to come out as bisexual because it’s less understood and because people immediately think 'Oh actually he’s gay, he's just denying it'. ”
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Posted by nlyurdsibat on 23rd Oct at 4:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
when i first told my mum i was bi, she said it wasnt true and so she dosnt belive me, im ok with that. a lot of my friends know im bi, but as a matter of fact i do hang around with a lot of bi and gay people so nothing is uneasy. it just really annoys me at school when striaght girls think i facny every girl i see so they have to make a comment on it. if that makes sense.”
Posted by Shannon on 18th Apr at 10:29AM (flag as inappropriate)
im confused about my sexuality. im very VERY into boys. but i mastubate to lesbian porn. i dont know why it just turns me on.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 17th Apr at 8:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 now and I'm definitely a late bloomer so it was easy to overlook my true feelings on the matter. I first assumed I was bi when I started crushing on a girl at age 16 but now I can't seem to imagine having a heterosexual relationship. Only my closest friends know but I've promised myself I'll come out properly once I get in a serious relationship.”
Posted by Sue on 12th Apr at 10:24AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 18 came out when i was 15 ive had a girl friend for the past 3 years coming out was very mixed but my moto is except me or forget me i thought i was all alone till i went to a local group and has really built my confidence ive been to loads of events and we launched are own website for people like us and are all very proud”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 4th Apr at 3:00AM (flag as inappropriate)
you wouldn't go up to somebody and say "I'm straight" so why should you have to just because you're something different? I'm not ashamed about it at all and if somebody asks something about it I'll answer honestly but I don't think you should directly have to say to somebody "I'm gay or I'm bisexual." In the same way that you wouldn't ask somebody are you straight, why should you ask somebody if they are inteseted in the same sex? I don't understand how it can 'just be a phase'? People always ask me 'but how can you be sure... what turned you'? its not really like that. You don't wake up one day and think oh i'll try kissing someone of the same sex to see if i like it or not. you walk past sombody and find them attractive in the same way you find somebody of the same sex attractive it can't be helped. i guess if you're not in that situation it would be hard to understand.”
Posted by lucy on 2nd Apr at 11:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
im nealy 17 and ive been attracted to girls for almost 4 years i thought it was a phase i would go through but i really feel that i am bi or lesbian it scares me. i am actually in a relationship with a guy but im not attracted to him i just want to be with a girl, but im too ashamed to tell anyone nobody knows, i dont have any lesbian friends so its hard to talk to anyone if i had a lesbian friend id probly tel them or ask them questions. im just hopin that this is just a phase i am goin through .......”
Posted by Nat on 2nd Apr at 10:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 15 and know that i am deffinetly straight. I personaly havent got a problem with gays, but i dont like the way they are treated and judged. I think it is wrong teachers telling little children that being gay is a wrong thing and that gays are different from everybody else. When they clearly are not. :)”
Posted by Paige on 1st Apr at 9:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
These experiances are so similair. I came out to my friends at 14 that i was gay/bi as am still confused lol but anyway my mates accepted me loads and supported me ^^. I think some people are just problemed if they don't accept sexualitys theres nothing wrong with it people who just try to think that (I will rape there bum ><) just because am gay now thats just like a straight person raping a girl/boy i think people like that are seclueding themselves from this or are just afraid to realize that tons of people who are gay are around us”
Posted by Connor on 1st Apr at 9:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out 2 days before my 17th birthday but I knew I was gay when I was around 13, I first told a couple of my closes mates, whom took I really well and they all said they already new and then I told my mother, whom took it quite badly, mainly because I've got a younger brother & sister and she was worried about the implications it might have on them, but now my mother has got her head around the idea and my siblings have never had any uproar about my sexuality.
Coming out was one of the best decisions I ever made, it's made me the person I am today, giving me more confidence, I've gained more friends as finely I can be frank and honest about myself and be truely me :)”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 11:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out when I was 21 however I knew from a very early age I was into girls/women. I remember being 9 yrs old and fancying one of my best friends mom.
My family and friends are okay with me being gay, but I think a lot of it has to do with me being a happy and strong willed person.”
Posted by Katie on 31st Mar at 10:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
Well I came out when I was around 12, in year 8, but i've always known since i was a kid i was attracted to guys, but I thought it was wrong. As I grew older I felt more comfortable and I came out after getting my first boyfriend. As my sister is a lesbian I knew my mum was okay with it but I was unsure about myself so I came out to her, And all she said to me was "Oh, I thought so." Now I'm only 15 going on 16 but I'm glad I realised young so I didnt have to be in denial, and I enjoy my relationship with my partner. It was hard to come out but once I did I felt free.”
Posted by Lewis on 31st Mar at 9:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 16. I'm bi and I'm slowly making it around friends at the moment. I feel like I've liked females along with guys at around the age of 13/14. I masturbate better to lesbian porn than male/female porn. I dont intend on telling any of my relatives and I only tell my CLOSE friends who I trust with everything.”
Posted by Laura on 31st Mar at 9:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
I came out as 'bisexual' at age 14, I told my mother quite frankly that I liked girls. Luckily she was easygoing over all this, and was very disapointed when I got a boyfriend not a girlfriend
However it can be difficult, when my ex-girlfriend was revealed to her parents to be a lesbian she was thrown out, and now often has troubles with them as they cannot accept her.”
Posted by Alice. on 31st Mar at 3:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
I first properly realised I had feelings for girls when I was 15, and fell pretty much head over heels for a girl who at the time identified as bi. That situation got VERY messy, but during it all, and for a few years after it, I felt no real need to labelmyself or my sexuality. I just decided to go with the flow, and not limit myself with labels. I couldnt even imagen having to come out to my parents. I just assumed somehow I'd just fall in love with a guy, get married, have kids. I didnt really fit the typical 'butch' lesbian stereotype eather which made it harder to accept a label. By the time I was 17 I realised that I only really fancied girls, and so after I took some time to come to terms with it, i came out to my parents when I was 18. For such a long time I was scaredof coming out, and annoyed in a way that I even had to. The only reason anyone has to 'come out' is because society just assumes everyone straight, so we have to come out to tellpeople oherwise. anyway, it wasnt that bad. My parents were pretty accepting. Its been almost a year now since I came out, now I'm in uni, and most people know (it filters around pretty quickly) but its not my whole identity, people seeme for me, and thats nice :)I have a girlfriend now, and I havnt told my parents about her just yet, but all my friends concider our realtionship the same as they would any straight one, so thats nice! :)
Although im prettty damn gay, I'm still not really a fan of labels. I've only really ever been attracted to girls, but its not like ive met every guy in the world.. so.. who knows? eather way, i wouldnt change a thing :)
remeber kids! being gay/bi isnt the end of the world, and its just one aspectto who you are, just like youre hair colour or eye colour, it doesnt have to define you :)”
Posted by Rachel on 31st Mar at 12:30AM (flag as inappropriate)
I've always had feelings for women from a very young age but i wasn't sure what it was until i went high school. At that time I was Bisexual, I liked lads and girls...But i always prefered girls. I fancied my best friend for years and when she said she was going out with a girl i still didn't say a word to her because i didn't know how she would react. I had my first sexual experience with a girl when i was 17, She was a friend at college and one night we got very drunk, and it just happened. I had my first girlfriend the same year. I loved starting college because i knew i didn't have to hide who i was anymore. I came out to my friends at first because my mum is a christian and i was afraid of what her reaction would be. When i told my mum, she thought i was going to tell her that i was pregnant. To people who are scared of "coming out" don't be ashamed of who you are, You've got to live your life and be proud. Don't let anyone bring you down, People are different. I've been with my Girlfriend a year and so many months now, and i've never been happier. I'll never stop learning about who i am but now i don't have hide a major part of me away anymore. My girlfriend hid our relationship for nearly a year because she was scared of her Dad, And when he did find out he was angry at first but he realised that his daughter was the same little girl he brought up. It just takes time and a lot of effort but it's all worth it in the end, you just have to be brave.”
Posted by Steph on 30th Mar at 10:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 17 years old and "came out" as bisexual to my mum nearly 3 years ago. she didn't take it well but got over it the end. My friends were supportive and my boyfriend accepts it :) There are so many horror stories about what happens to some people when they come out but honestly there is nothing to worry about, parents and friends will get over it and hey, we can't help the way we feel about people. i say if you dont want people to know, why should they...its none of their buisness who you would like to go to bed with is it :)”
Posted by jo on 30th Mar at 9:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 15 and im biseuxal and my friends accepted that, we even joke about lesbianism and stuff like that. i had mixed reactions form other people, they asked questions and peple took the mick but you gotta ignore them. my mom thinks its a phase though.”
Posted by sophia on 30th Mar at 9:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 31 and came out to friends about 5 years ago and to my mum and sister around two years ago. I will have to tell everyone else one day but it's on my own terms and when I am ready. Not everyone needs to know but I am not ashamed. If anything I wonder about peoples judgement but that doesn't stop me living my life. It is a lifestyle and you grow with it- accepting yourself makes you strong an it gives you an edge because you know who you are. Many people don't or afraid to do just that. I love it. My life is varied, interesting and special!!!!!!!!!!”
Posted by Ceclilia on 28th Feb at 7:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
i came out about being bi wen i was 17 i knew since i was 15 but jus didnt say it to anyone apart from my close mates none of my family no i am bi”
Posted by jessica on 7th Jan at 4:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm not 'coming out' at all. I don't see why you have to. You don't tell everyone that you like guys, so why tell them i like girls? What's the difference? Also, and this is my ulterior motive here, i'd get disowned. My parents are strict and VERY religious, and since i'm still living in their house (im 17), i should abide by their rules.
Doesn't stop me from chasing the girls though! ”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 27th Oct at 11:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm quite young and I've heard stories about people coming out and them being chucked out of their own homes because of it. I know for sure that my dad wouldn't accept me, so I'm scared. I may not come out until I'm 18.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 17th Oct at 9:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
Don't just phone every one you know only phone the people who are going to be able to help and understand you who are your family.If they are not willing to help then mayber you can just speak to a councillor.”
Posted by Amy on 17th Oct at 4:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
well im bi and i came out ot my mates wen i was wat 12/13 (year 8) yeah it took them a while to accept it, and guess wat news spreads fast and ive been bullied since then by ppl at skl,i was really ashamed at first but now i dont care im proud bout it to be honest, im now in year 10 and if ppls ask summing i'll tell them, your sexuality is nothing to be asha,ed or scared about u are who u are and no one should change that for u. a few of my mates have asked my advice and have come out in their on time, but i have one problem, my dad doesnt no, i ve tlod my cousin but i cant seem to tell my dad everytime it comes to it i frwak ad get worried coz hes a single father under alot of pressure wat do i do ?”
Posted by gem on 14th Oct at 8:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
My brother knows I'm bisexual and that's it in my family because he doesn't judge me. But my dad is expecting so much of me... If I suddenly came out as bisexual I don't know what he would do.
I have found that people think it's just a phase and "Oh don't worry it'll pass and she'll sort herself out." But it is a lifestyle. I'm alot happier now I've accepted who I am, but I think I'd be happier if I didn't have to guard myself infront of my dad and family.”
Posted by Rebecca on 14th Oct at 8:28PM (flag as inappropriate)
i first developed a defined crush on a guy when i was 14, i tried denieng it but a couple of moths later i went on holiday and developed another crusg on a guy, on the ferry back i told myself that i was bi and it bacame so much better, when i got back i decided as i had liked the first guy for 8 moths to tel my best friend and she was realy supptive, a year later my mum dad and my whole school knows but i was pleased as i knew who liked and disliked me and i got a boy friend, i was also able to meet otther people who are bi and i even told the secong guy i liked him!”
Posted by daniel on 14th Oct at 7:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
to the person who is scared of coming out ive got to say my parents are well strict and i always dropped hints all u have to do is say it im gay and then see what they say my mum went why u saying that i went because its true and they excepted it ur dad will probably do wot mine did sit their and take it he will probably make a gay joke mine did just laugh and it will all be over with they will now ur gay and u can be happy and out of the closet xx”
Posted by joseph on 8th Oct at 10:33PM (flag as inappropriate)
she is very very brave. i am 21 and been with my girlfiend for a year and a half but i have not come out to my family”
Posted by sam on 7th Oct at 8:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
what a very brave woman. It must be difficult to have been in her situation.”
Posted by Chris on 7th Oct at 8:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
hey I do not think I can come out to my parents me and my mum don't have a good relationship as it is we always fight and when I drop hints to my dad he tells me to shut up what should I do”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 7th Oct at 8:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
she was very brave, i hope my love for girls is just a passing phase, as i am too scared to come out.”
Posted by Alice on 5th Oct at 7:43PM (flag as inappropriate)