“I think at the time I was quite upset because you know you do sort of wonder about what what the child would have looked like.”
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You wonder what might have been. You wonder if you made the right decision.”
“I think at the time I was quite upset because you know you do sort of wonder about what what the child would have looked like.”
“It has changed my view on it. Before I would have tried to force the girl as much as possible to have had an abortion.”
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I was 18 when I had an abortion. The condom split and apparently, I was the 1 woman out of 200 that got pregnant despite the "morning after" pill.
I was devastated. I've always wanted children, but I knew I wouldn't be able to support him or her and I was in the middle of university studies.
The worst part was seeing the foetus (12 weeks old). That image still haunts me and I have great difficulty looking at babies, pregnant bellies or children that are the same age my little one would have been, without breaking down.
I shoved my feelings aside and made a very pragmatic choice.”
Posted by Yu on 5th Aug at 5:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
A couple of months back I discovered I was 10 weeks pregnant...and to be honest I expected it. Even though deep down I knew, I was devastated - I was 17 and still a child myself. I knew that I wanted the abortion straight away. When I went to the clinic it was so sad to see so many other girls in the same situation, some even younger than me. Everyone at the clinic was so helpful and kind. I still wonder 4 weeks on about what might have been or if i made the right decision and I don't think I'll ever know.”
Posted by Lauren on 7th Jul at 9:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
At the time it seemed like the simplest way out of the situation for everyone's sake. My parents still do not know: the only people who did were my boyfriend and my school nurse. I was 15 and lying in the hospital bed for 9 hours which seemed like a lifetime. Two years on and I still think about what I could have had, things like birthdays for my unborn child. I know I only went through with it because my mum has clinical depression and would not have been able to cope. I was scared of what the rest of my family would think and my boyfriend (who is now my fiancee) was leaning towards wanting me to have an abortion. If it was just me my god I would love nothing more than to keep it, but now it is too late. All I keep telling myself is that I will always be able to have kids in the future and well to be honest going through that experience has really scarred me as I also keep thinking to myself: "what if I can't have children?" Both my fiancee and I have promised each other if I got pregnant again we wouldn't get rid of it because I cannot go through anymore emotional torment.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 6th Jul at 2:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
I regret it with all my heart. At the time i was in a situation with no support & not financially stable. I was pushed into it by my partner at the time. This was 7 years ago. Still not a day goes by that I don't think about the baby. I would never consider another abortion as long as I live.”
Posted by annie on 17th Jun at 8:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had an abortion in Dec 08. I felt like I was making the right decision at the time but nothing can ever prepare you for it. I always think about what the baby would be like. Since it happened I have completely lost my sex drive which is annoying.”
Posted by Claire on 5th Jun at 9:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had an abortion 4 years ago and the experience never leaves you. Not a day goes by where I don't think about it but for me it was the right decision. No matter what age you are or your circumstances please take this advice; get help from someone who specialises in post-abortion counselling afterwards. I was told that because I was making the decision to abort I would be fine afterwards and my life would just carry on. I'm a professional woman in my thirties but after almost 4 years I couldn't cope with the strength of my feelings on my own. I'm seeing a wonderful counsellor now who is helping me to make sense of my feelings so that I can put this experience in its rightful place. No one should have to suffer in silence.”
Posted by Jane on 27th May at 8:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had an abortion at the age of 22 after being pushed into it by my partner. I became pregnant again 5 months later and knew that i would keep it despite my partner trying to push me down the abortion route again. I can't help thinking whether i subconsciously wanted to get pregnant again to make amends for having the first abortion. It is only now, 4 years later, that i am fully seeing the effects of the emotional upset the abortion caused. Despite having a healthy happy little boy in my life i continue to feel guilt, anger and sadness about the abortion. My child's father left me after i decided i was going to continue with the pregnancy.”
Posted by kay on 18th May at 8:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had an abortion last year, at 17. I'm glad I made the decision at the time because I wouldn't have been able to carry on with school and have a proper experience at university. At the time I didn't really think about it, when I found out I was pregnant I was terrified and booked an appointment at the clinic straight away. My boyfriend (at the time) came with me and we both cried as soon as it was over. I didn't realise the effect it would have on me at all until I started noticing every single pregant woman and babies were everywhere. I don't regret it at all, but I do still think about it everyday and I wonder if my now ex-boyfriend still wonders in the same way at how different our lives would be.”
Posted by Emma on 2nd Apr at 8:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
it is a true response, you alwys wonder what if...! I also wonder whether it has caused me problems with my last pregnancy as it ended in miscarriage, if i'd have continued with the aborted pregancy would things have ended this way?”
Posted by Holly on 2nd Apr at 2:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had an abortion in 2006. I was 14 years old! Even thoough I know it was the right thing to do I still regret it everyday! I feel like this because I feel like I killed my baby! I think about it every day and it gets me upset from time to time, but I know it was the right thing to do at the time and I cant wait to be a mum in the future.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 4:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
I wasupset when going through the abortion as i wondered what my life would have been like if i kept the baby.”
Posted by Mollie on 31st Mar at 7:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
I get pregnant when I was 15 , I was in a long term relationship and very much in love. I was absolutely gutted when I found out because I was so young and frightened to tell me paretns , I told my boyfriend straight away and he wasn't too happy about the idea either, I went to the doctors and they confirmed I was pregnant. Soon after, my boyfriend finished with me leaving me pregnant. I was so scared and too embarrassed to tell anyone only my 2 closet friends knew. Time went on and before I knew it I was starting to show. I went to the drs again for a check up in my head I was saying I was having an abortion but my heart wanted me to keep it, as I came out of the drs door my paretns were there picking up a prescription. I didnt know what to do so I just rung back in to the office and hid. When I got home I told them everything. My paretns were so supportive and said that they would go along with what I wanted . I was only 15 so I carried on saying I wanted an abortion deep down I didnt though. All through this my ex didnt bother with me but his parents were great. I had to go for a check up for the abortion to check everything was ok to go ahead with it and then I found out that I was expecting twins and was 5months pregnant. My heart sunk I just wanted everything to go away. I asked my ex one more time what he wanted to do and he still said he wanted nothing to do with me. I went up to London and had the abortion that went over 2 days. I am 21 now and I still think about it evryday it was the worst decision of my life! there is not a day goes by that I don't regret what I've done. Im not against abortion in any way at all, but I just wish I had someone to tell me the guilt and regret you go through once its done. its heartbreaking.”
Posted by Katy on 31st Mar at 6:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had an abortion in 2008, i was 19. the reason i had it done was because i had broken up with my boyfriend at the time for being aggressive with me. it was the right thing to do but i still regret it so much! i was in pain for about 6 weeks after and had to have investigations as i wouldnt stop bleeding. i still think about it everyday and it upsets me when i see babies but i just have to learn to deal with it. now i look forward to be a mum with the right person!”
Posted by Laura on 30th Mar at 8:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
i had an abortion at the age of 15, im now 16 and cant cope well with it. lots of thoughts run through my head and i just wish i didnt make the choice please help.:(”
Posted by cheryl on 29th Oct at 2:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
Last year I had an abortion. I was only with the guy for a short time and when I told him I was pregnant, he told me he would leave me if I didn't have an abortion. I didn't want to go through with it but was terrified of being alone with a baby. Even at the hospital before the abortion I was in such a state the nurse told me to go away and think about it before I came back. I sat in the car park for over an hour before going in and going through with it. To this day I don't know why I did. Afterwards the guy still finished with me. I became depressed and went to the doctors but there was little support. It was the worst desicion I've ever made and urge people in a similar situation to do what they want and not be swayed by others, as that doesn't work. I'm now 20 weeks pregnant and I've never been happier. I know this new baby will not replace the one never to be born but I can now start to look to the future instead of looking back on the mistake I made.”
Posted by ellie on 19th Oct at 6:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 17 when i had an abortion. My boyfriends (at the time) dad had just found out he was dying of cancer when i found out the boyfriend told me to have an abortion but i didn't want one. I decided to go through with it thinking he would change his mind, as all i've ever wanted is
to be a mum! I had to go up to london on my own for the abortion. When I was there they let me listen to my babys heart rate as i was 15weeks! When i went through I asked them to stop but I guess it was to late, it was the worst thing i've done in my life knowing that I murdered my own child! After I tried to kill myself as I was so upset at what I had done. Even now it still upsets me, I think about that baby ever day. Im 23 now! I think the worst thing was that my boyfriends dad never got to see his grandchild.”
Posted by fiona on 7th Oct at 8:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
i had an abortion in 2006, it was the hardest thing i have ever done. I never wanted to go through with it but my mom pushed me into it. She was scared of what my dad would say to her and didnt care about the way i felt. I will regret what i did till the day i die. It messed me up mentally for along time, i cried everytime i seen a baby on the tv or out in the street, And even now 2years on i still think about it and a tear appears! Me and my boyfriend now are trying for a baby but it hasnt happenend yet! I cant wait to be a mum!”
Posted by Tammy on 1st Oct at 12:02AM (flag as inappropriate)
I had an abortion when I was 20. It was probably the hardest decision that I have ever had to make, but I know that it was the right one. Physically it took my body 6-8 weeks to recover as the bleeding and cramps seemed to last for ages. But emotionally, it took me about 3 years to stop crying over it but even now (i'm 25) I still think to myself, "did I make the right decision?" I know that I did, but it still hurt but not as much.”
Posted by Tamara on 30th Sep at 8:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
It was the right desision for me and my partner at the time as we are still young, and dont live together. Yea i still think about it and ask did i make the right desision, in the long run i think i have. it was best not just for me but my unborn child”
Posted by Raphaelle on 18th Sep at 7:26PM (flag as inappropriate)