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Ann answers How do you say 'no' to sex?

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  1. I'm worried that if I get myself into a situation where it seems expected of me and I say no that they might get nasty or violent.”

    Posted by Sarah on 9th Apr at 2:43AM (flag as inappropriate)

  2. When it comes to it, its about how comfortable you feel with the person. If you dont feel ready or comfortable with that person then you can always say no! Whether you are not ready or you simply dont wont to them just explain to the person, if they try and make an argument or make you feel bad about it then they are not worth it. If they really like you and want to have that intimacy with you then they will wait.”

    Posted by natalie on 7th Apr at 8:18PM (flag as inappropriate)

  3. Sorry, we're not married! It's a big deal, and all round I feel it's better to save it for your favourite person. I'm a Christian and I'm sure the best way is chastity before marriage and faithfulness inside it. This approach has a risk or two, but they're outweighed by the advantages. Basically, my belief is that God knows what he's talking about.

    Within marriage, the Christian approach is that you belong to each other, so if one wants to, the other one should, arguably. The partners shouldn't deprive each other, '... except perhaps by agreement for a limited time...' (1 Cor. 7:5).”

    Posted by Robin on 24th Sep at 9:06PM (flag as inappropriate)

If you say no then you end up either having an argument or possibly even losing that person, but then if you say yes are you saying yes for the right reasons? ”

Ann, 53

Sex facts

  • In the eyes of the law, giving consent to sex is active, not passive; it is only considered consensual if both parties are freely choosing to say yes.

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