“Taking as it were for the first time didn’t hurt as much it was more uncomfortable and it felt like I had passed a brick.”
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… it was a new sensation for me I wasn't use to at all so but the more I got relaxed the better it felt ”
“Taking as it were for the first time didn’t hurt as much it was more uncomfortable and it felt like I had passed a brick.”
“… it was almost like square peg round hole really.”
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19 posted so far
me and my boyfriend did it for the first time a couple of days ago and it didnt hurt me at all it was so werid i thought it would , but i lookd up on it and i you have to me completly aroused at the time and i was and we engagedd in forpaly before hand to so that helped but seriosuly i was ready n really wanted it so i think thast why it didnt hurt me”
Posted by jemmmma on 18th Nov at 9:59AM (flag as inappropriate)
the first time i had sex it was the most painful thing ever! it lasted maybe 3 minutes.. but then it got better, and stopped hurting, but didn't actually feel good at all.”
Posted by Sophia on 3rd Oct at 3:03AM (flag as inappropriate)
I Had Sex For The First Time Yesterday And It Really Hurt As I Was TO Tight, It Also Hurt The Male,! I Starting Bleeding During Intercourse And A Day Later Is Still Bleeding, And My Self Is Woundering Will It Hurt Next Time I Have Sex, And Will I Bleed?”
Posted by kellie on 19th Jul at 5:24AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm sixteen and really scared to have sex for the first time because of the pain. I cant even use tampons, when theyre in i'm in agony. What should i do and is this normal? Please someone help!”
Posted by shan on 17th Jul at 12:34AM (flag as inappropriate)
I still am a virgin, i tried to have sex one time but it just hurt so much. I think that the problem was that i wasn´t turned on enough, but it really made me wonder how anyone could enjoy that..”
Posted by Natalie on 15th Jul at 11:19AM (flag as inappropriate)
like bella, my boyfriend is really experienced and i've told him that i've done it before. i don't know what to do, cause if i'll bleed he'll understand that i lied. can't i do something to make sure i wont bleed ?”
Posted by ellie on 14th Jul at 7:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
My first time having sex was PAINLESS. I was completely aroused & it didn't hurt one bit. :)”
Posted by Tara on 9th Jul at 4:11AM (flag as inappropriate)
It did hurt for me the first time, and I thought it would hurt everytime I had sex but it didn't at all. It no longer hurts me and I find it a very enjoyable experience. It definitely helps if you relax, I think that was one of the main problems for me, but now I have relaxed and I am doing it with someone who I really love (I was anyway) it doesn't hurt at all.”
Posted by B on 6th Jul at 4:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm actually really pleased about my first time, and even if it did hurt quite a bit, it really wasn't as bad as everyone told me it would be. I am glad to "be done with it " or whatever, but I lied about it not being my first time because the guy I was with was really experienced, but that might not have been the most sensible thing to do because that meant he wasn't as careful. But, all in all, it really wasn't that bad and there's no need to worry about it. xxx”
Posted by Bella on 6th Jul at 4:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
For me I lost my virginity to someone I had a strong feelings for. I was fully aroused but I must have a small vagina because it hurt A LOT. However about minutes in it started getting better until it became okay.”
Posted by Carly on 6th Jul at 4:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
Seriously it didn't hurt me but it was with someone I really love and I did it at the right time. People told me it hurt so much but then I did it and it was really enjoyable. Only do it if your ready and don't let anyone force you into something that you don't want to do because if you do then it will hurt because you wont be relaxed. xx”
Posted by faye on 30th Jun at 9:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
I only lost my virginity a few weeks ago and I had some friends telling me it barely hurt and then others saying it hurt quite a lot. In my own experience it didn't really "hurt" it was just really uncomfortable, my body obviously wasn't used to it at all. It only lasts for maybe a minute or even less, and then it's fine :)”
Posted by Georgina on 22nd Jun at 12:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
i think this is agood explanation but i still wonder how sex will be for the first time”
Posted by sally on 20th Apr at 6:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost it a few months ago and it still hurts ? is it normal ?x”
Posted by sasha on 14th Apr at 11:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
I thought it would hurt the first time I had sex. I loved the boy I was with which made it easier and we had talked about it. You have to make sure your relaxed as well as physically and emotionally ready, it is uncomfortable the first time the penis goes in but it soon becomes enjoyable.”
Posted by Sarah on 11th Apr at 9:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
For girls - if you're relaxed (i.e FULLY SURE you want to have sex) and aroused (i.e WET) it shouldn't really hurt.
It may feel a little uncomfortable and tight (maybe also feel a bit strange as it's a new sensation), but you'll 'open up'. The first time really isn't anything you'll particularly remember years later - the earth certainly didn't move for me first time!
Don't fret or expect too much and afterwards you'll wonder what on earth you were worrying about, and believe me - sex is like anything else - it get's better with practice.”
Posted by beverly on 9th Apr at 10:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity in the last month or so, and I think the best way to describe it is that you're body has to rearrange itself in a way, so for me it really hurt. However, the next few times hurt less and less, and eventually your body gets used to it. The most important thing is that you trust the person you're with, and you do it because you want to.”
Posted by Jade on 8th Apr at 9:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
well i thought about it wayy too much, but then finally deciced to do it. it did hurt alot! but it was like a pain that gives you pleasure,”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 3rd Apr at 3:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am scared about my first time because i don't want it to hurt but my friends tell me it only hurts for the first 5 seconds but i am still a little scared about doing it.”
Posted by Amy on 31st Mar at 9:11PM (flag as inappropriate)