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Orgasms, let’s face it - I’m sure most of us would like to have them at some point during sex.

Pornography gives the impression that it’s quite easy to have them, to give them and to control them.

But how much does this actually relate to real life?

It’s time to find out.

Share your experience or leave a comment

104 posted so far

My wife doesn't get her orgasms easily. It is a rare occurrence when we do sex. Does it leads to less involvement and enjoyment of females. as my wife generally wants to avoid sex.”

Posted by Sharma on 4th Nov at 6:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 14 and this boy fingered me , i cummed but i didnt feel like i had an orgasm, i didnt make any noise at all is that normal ?”

Posted by michelle on 27th Oct at 1:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
Last week I had sex for the first time it hurt a bit but not as much as I thought it would. The other day I did it for the second time. It didn't hurt until he pushed really hard then I felt a little pain but thought it was normal but then after we had done it there was so much blood it was all over his bed and I didn't know what to do. I don't know if this was meant to happen. Please help?”

Posted by amy on 25th Oct at 1:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
This is great! I wish this info was more widely spread. I have a lot of girlfriends who seem sadly affected by the image they give not just in porn but in all sex scenes in movies. A lot of my friends have never had an orgasm or mastrubated. It's sad when people experimetn so much with sex without really finding out what they like and how they like it. Casual or not sex should be a time for communication! You can't have really good sex without being open. I really wish more women would be more comfortable with their bodies.”

Posted by Linn on 21st Oct at 10:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
im worried about my first time because i dont know if you have to shave down there for him because he might notlike it other wise i no this is sily but i cant seem to stop worring about it specially since my bf is taking our realtioship further”

Posted by Briae on 8th Oct at 9:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
i only seem to be able to orgasm when my partner is masturbating me - is that normal?”

Posted by lauren on 7th Oct at 5:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm a 32 year old married woman. I've been with several men in my life, but I haven't had an orgasm during sex or with a man. I find it easy by masturbating but really don't find any plessure during sex. And thats how it's always been. I don't think it will ever be any different, as I've been with my husband for 9 years now. I'd actually rather wish he would have sex with other women so I don't have to do it anymore”

Posted by Rikke on 9th Sep at 8:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
when i masturbate i have to stop because my body goes week and i cant go any longer is this normal?”

Posted by emma on 22nd Aug at 5:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive only ever faked...:$ is that bad seeing if done it a few times. i dont even come close to doing it..”

Posted by suzi on 20th Aug at 10:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
for the people saying your not sure wether you have had an orgasm, BELIEVE ME YOU WOULD KNOW!”

Posted by CHERYL on 19th Aug at 5:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
me and my boyfriend have been having sex frequently for about 4 months now, and i dont think i've orgasmed once. i really want to, but don't know what to do to increase my chance of us both recieving one, because im pretty sure he hasnt had one either. are we doing something wrong? get back to me (:”

Posted by danielle on 11th Aug at 11:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im always really nervous to go 'on top' as i dont know if i will do it right, or if my tummy will look fat. However, I've never had an orgasm during sex so really want to give it a go!! Help!”

Posted by Olivia on 10th Aug at 7:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
Arg! Why can noone answer all of us frustrated women, I have never had an orgasm either, I seem to get to the brink, then nothing...it is SO frustrating, and it upsets my partner too. And now you are saying I may never have one?!?! Why is there no simple solution? Actually, while we're on, I've heard taking half a viagra can help, has anyone tried it, is it advisable?”

Posted by Beth on 5th Aug at 2:24AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi why is it that when ever im having sex and i have an orgasm my boyfriends always have to stop because of pain?”

Posted by Cara on 30th Jul at 11:00AM (flag as inappropriate)
is masturbation using a dildo or is it using you're hands and experementing with you're vagina?”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 24th Jul at 10:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have had sex 3 times with the same lad without a condom, however he pulled out when he came. I think i experienced an orgasm as every now an then it felt really nice, but i'm not sure.”

Posted by Sian on 23rd Jul at 8:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
When i first started having sex when i was 16, i used to orgasm frequently and I always ejaculated huge quantities of fluid. The guy i was with at the time told me this was not normal. I then spend years suppressing my orgasm and just faking. It wasn't until i was in a relationship when I was 21 did a guy call me out on faking and i admitted to him why I did. He showed me some porn, and the girl ejaculated just like i had. It made me realise it was actually normal. Since then I have been able to relax enough to be able to orgasm again - sometimes i ejaculate, sometimes I don't. I very rarely orgasm through penetrative sex, mainly through oral or masturbation. I really think it has a lot to do with relaxation.”

Posted by Emma on 21st Jul at 12:41AM (flag as inappropriate)
Personally i cannot orgasm through penetrative sex alone but greatly enjoy sex. I have been amazed at the number of people who think that there is a problem with woman who can't. But it really is very common and very normal. My advice for anyone is to make sure your relaxed before having sex, turned on and use extra lubrication if you cant produce enough naturally, be patient and enjoy clitoral stimulation before and during intercourse to orgasm. Girls do it yourself and show your partner what to do if it never works with him doing it. Also, if sex is painful and you know you have no STI's then chances are your not using enough lubrication and/or not stimulated enough before sex. I wish everyone luck with sorting out any problems they feel they have. xxx”

Posted by alexa on 18th Jul at 10:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 23 years old and I lost my virgin when i was 18. I have had many diffrent sexpartners(, and i think i do just fine). BUT there's one thing that i can't stop thinking about. Fakes, I accually wonder how many of the girls i've been with who faked orgasm. (Lot's of guys thinks that every girl they've been with had an orgasm, that's sad because girls can fake very good and easy. That's bad because they think they are better then they accually are, so please stop fake us ;) )I just met the best girl in the world about two months ago. We've had lots of sex, but sometimes she screams like an animal. And sometimes she just make those noises and breed very fast and suddenly relaxes. I wonder what the diffrence is, if there is any. I've heard that sofasex and dishbenchsex creates good angles to stimulate. Is that true? It seems to work, because i last longer and she says that she has orgasms. Anyway. How do I bring it up? Thing is, I care for her and I want her to have orgasms every single time. I accually care more if she gets an orgasm, then if I get a good one. Sence there's no problem for guys. I don't want her to be offended if i ask her right out. I meen how dose that sound? -"Honey, are you faking me?. Because i don't want you to." Please, i need help here. I find these kind of things hard to handle. I would be very glad if someone can help me with this "Problem". Thanks! / Dennis”

Posted by Dennis on 15th Jul at 10:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
How can i achieve an orgasm without having sex?? what do i do?”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 10th Jul at 11:50AM (flag as inappropriate)
all of my friends are having sex and am sceared that i will be bad i dont no any think in bed and am worried that when i lose my vigity that there will be alot of blood”

Posted by patsy on 8th Jul at 9:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
If people don't realize that porno is fake, then I feel sorry for them. There aren't many actors in porno that doesn't fake orgasms. Come on dudes!

Thanks for a great programe by the way”

Posted by Madde// Sweden on 8th Jul at 8:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
i been with my partner for over 3 years know i never cum etc i hate it i feel bad tht i cant i love sex why cant i or wat can i do to cum please help me”

Posted by kim on 6th Jul at 11:43AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm in my middle teens, and i am pretty sure i want to have sex now. But the thing is, i'm not sure i'f i can please the guy i like. He's a lot more experianced than i am. There are a lot of boys at school i like, and i know some of them like me too, and they would want to have it with me. I dont want to go the whole way though, just some things. xxx”

Posted by OLIVIA on 5th Jul at 1:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
i love sex but im worried i have to many orgasms in one session serriously no joke i orgasm aroun 10-20 times each time my parner and i have sex x”

Posted by kim on 17th Jun at 12:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have had sex 30+ times and orgasm everytime but the girl has never had one and they all promise me im not a bad shag whats wrong ?”

Posted by drew on 16th Jun at 10:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 20 years old. I have a long term partner and a 5 month old son. I only ever had about 2 orgasms and neither of those were in the past year! I have had other boyfriends so it doesn't seem to be him. My partner also thinks I should squirt like in porn which i know not many women do normally so it does annoy me!”

Posted by Jess on 11th Jun at 7:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 14 and im obv a girl , but i am reely scared cause iv got a bf but i watch lesbian porn but wen he has oral wi me he made me squirt just a little bit wen i watched lesbian porn i squirted millions an i had to change my sheets :-S PLZ HELP ME”

Posted by claire on 10th Jun at 8:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have never had a orgams during sex whats going on!!”

Posted by laura on 10th Jun at 8:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 16, usually cum for no reason and my boyfriend and i have dry sex, and i normally have an organsum when rubbed, would we catch anything, (virgins we are by the way) if we wore our undergarments, cause i feel more of an organsium then, and is dry sex stupid?”

Posted by ellla on 6th Jun at 2:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive had two sexual parterners and everytime i have sex, its never good, its always "ok" i never get alot of pleasure, what other positions can i have sex in to help this?”

Posted by Sian on 3rd Jun at 9:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
how does your partner find your g-spot ? ”

Posted by Katie on 27th May at 10:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
I can orgasm more than once is the same night. is that normal?? i love my partner and he is more interested in me recieving pleasure than himself. could that be part of it?”

Posted by ash on 27th May at 8:41AM (flag as inappropriate)
I masturbate all the time...but I can't reach orgasm. Why?”

Posted by Mitchell on 19th May at 6:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have been with my boyfriend for 6 monthes, he was the 1st lad i had sex with so when we finulally agreed to have sex i never experianced an orgasom, so from reading the infomation on this page has helped me to know more bout it all.”

Posted by fiona on 18th May at 1:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
i've never had an orgasm during sex but find it really easy during foreplay, i'm not really sure why this is though. and i've only ever ejaculated with one person, maybe he was just very good...”

Posted by jessica on 11th May at 8:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have been having sex with my friend for 8 months now, it has happened about 20-30 times but i have not had an orgasm once. he does everything right to pleasure me with foreplay and sex, but i feel like im letting him down by not having an orgasm so he knows that he is good enough”

Posted by emma on 6th May at 11:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi im a teenager and i have this problem to. I've had sex quite alot and still no orgasm. i need to know why i dont have an orgasm when im having sex? and will i ever get one? plz help:)”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 30th Apr at 6:07PM (flag as inappropriate)
i been with my partner for over 3 years know i never cum etc i hate it i feel bad tht i cant i love sex why cant i or wat can i do to cum please help me !!!!!!!!!!”

Posted by tracey on 29th Apr at 7:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been 'sexually active' for four years, with four sexual partners and have never felt any pleasure at all from sex, so obviously haven't had an orgasm. Sex is almost always painful more than anything (and do not have any stds). I genuinly do not understand how sex is supposed to be a pleasureable thing, simply uncomfortable and unpleasant.”

Posted by Rebecca on 28th Apr at 6:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 14 and when I produce it does not travel how its meant to it just kind of dribbles out. is this a problem as i am worried ?!”

Posted by Adam on 26th Apr at 12:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
My boyfriend often wonders why I dont ejaculate like he does. He thinks that I will squirt like he always saw in porn videos he watched. It confuses me why he thinks tht and embarasses me when he asks if I had ejaculated and I answer no.”

Posted by [No First Name Suplied] on 26th Apr at 7:46AM (flag as inappropriate)
i only have an orgasm when i masturbate never when i have sex.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 25th Apr at 12:17AM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 16 years old and everytime i have sex i tend to fake my orgasms because i dont want the guy to feel useless, but i really want to have an orgasm (which isn't done by me). how can i improve my chances of having pleasure like boys do? another thing is that my vagina is like really tight and then after sex its goes loose, but then really quickly it goes tight again, and it sometimes hurts guys when we begin to have sex. why doesn't my vagina stay the loose? its embarrassing, i think i really am broken below.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 22nd Apr at 8:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
I can reach an orgasm every time I masturbate but I rarely reach one when I have sex with my partner. This has nothing to do with my partner's performance or physical appearance/amount of body/pubic hair etc. It happens because of anxiety/stress levels when having sex. The only time I can reach an orgasm with him is when I am totally relaxed and really, really in the mood. I believe this is normal for most women and men in some cases.”

Posted by Joan on 21st Apr at 7:29AM (flag as inappropriate)
I can only make myself orgasm through clitoral stimulation. My boyfrined makes me produce cum but not orgasm, sex feels gret but the orgasm doesn't happen. Why can't I orgasm through sex? HELP!”

Posted by sara on 20th Apr at 8:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
Do you have to be having sex to have an orgasm?”

Posted by Beth on 20th Apr at 3:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
i love orgasms but porn lours you in to a faulse sense of securaty and makes you think that porn is the real world it makes youfeel insucure”

Posted by izzy on 19th Apr at 2:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had my first sexual partner at 16 and have had 12 since and didnt orgasm until my current partner - even then we had been together for a year before it happened. I didnt orgasm through masterbastion until my earlies 20s as I was afraid I would relax too much and wet myself. I sat in the bath and used the showerhead to stimulate my clitoris knowing that if I were to wet myself it wouldnt matter as I was in the bath. I have never wet myself during orgasm so please dont think YOU will!”

Posted by Vicky on 17th Apr at 9:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi im 14 and although ive never had sex i have "wanked" before. Recently ive not been havin an orgasm at all. I still cum but dont feel any pleasure. I build up to an orgasm but i neva had 1. Its really awful what can i do?”

Posted by Neil on 17th Apr at 3:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have never had an orgasm. I dont no if there is something wrong with me or whether its just because i have only just had one sexual partner? Can any one help me?”

Posted by Rebecca on 16th Apr at 4:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
i dont think that ive ever had a orgasm but i dont know im not sure if i have or havent and my partner during foreplay wants me to sqirt is that possible?”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 15th Apr at 8:31PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have had sex with 3 boys but only one of them managed to make me orgasm because he stimulated my clit aswell as penetrating me. do all boys think girls can orgasm just through penetration?”

Posted by Abbie on 14th Apr at 7:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
no matter what i do i can not orgasm i why is this?”

Posted by ebony on 13th Apr at 4:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
How do you actually get an orgasm during sex?”

Posted by Lilly-Ann on 13th Apr at 9:51AM (flag as inappropriate)
ive been with my boyfriend for a year and half (he's my first sexual partner). however, ive never orgasmed. ever. yet he seems to so easily. i dont understand why i cant. ive tried masturbation, but i dont get into it as much compared to being with him.”

Posted by Lola on 12th Apr at 9:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have only ever had an orgasm from clitoral stimulation, and even that isn't guaranteed. I've never had an orgasm from penetration (not even with a vibrator!). My partner is very understanding and we're working on improving my orgasms together. He is very loving and we're so relaxed with each other that we can fool around or have sex and just enjoy it, even if one or both of us don't orgasm.

All sorts of things can make orgasms difficult - bad moods, feeling ill, being tired, being stressed, having had one recently.

I think people should spend more time getting to know their bodies and having fun, and less time worrying that they're not 'normal'.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 12th Apr at 3:24AM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive been faking having orgasms with my partner and im not sure if ive ever actually had one. When i go ontop of him sometimes i get this overwhelming feeling, my legs feel funny and occasionaly i will get emotional afterwards...could this be an orgasm?”

Posted by Anon on 11th Apr at 4:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and I have never had an orgasm. Is this abnormal? It really upsets him that he hasn't given me one and he feels really insecure and ashamed. I don't no what to say to him to make him feel better because I honestly believe that it isn't him, I think that it's just that I am unable to have an orgasm. Having an orgasm isn't as important to me as it is to him because I feel like its me that can't have one I get so nervous and embarrassed, to the point that when we have sex I think about something else. What should I do because its having a huge impact on our relationship and I don't want to lose him?”

Posted by Tara on 11th Apr at 1:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
when i had sex me or my partner didnt have an orgasm is that normal ?”

Posted by georgie on 10th Apr at 2:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
i had a baby nine months ago im only 24 but ever since then i dont enjoy sex the same way and i cant have an orgasam”

Posted by sarah on 9th Apr at 3:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
i can only orgasm wen the boys on top and no other wae is that normal ?”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 9th Apr at 3:05AM (flag as inappropriate)
I really would not like to ejaculate... Ever. How strange that would be!”

Posted by Laura on 9th Apr at 12:22AM (flag as inappropriate)
With my first long time boyfriend we had sex twice and I never orgasimed atall. With my boyfriend of over a year now I find myself having orgasims very easily. It's all about communication!! With my now boyfriend we talk and give each other suggestions and this makes us both more realaxed which helps orgasims easier and means your more likely to be able to have them more often. This means you need alot of trust in your partner. Somethin that comes over time!! With someone you love!!”

Posted by Louise on 8th Apr at 12:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
I don't always have an orgasm when my partner and I have sex, but it doesn't really bother me all that much!”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 7th Apr at 8:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
oral sex is very useful for female orgasm”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 7th Apr at 8:55AM (flag as inappropriate)
Wot is it called wen women squirt?????”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 6th Apr at 9:36PM (flag as inappropriate)
I never seem to get an orgasm when i masturbate, and this makes me think that i won't get one when i have sex. I'm a virgin. Is it normal?”

Posted by Lauren on 6th Apr at 5:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
I hope a lot of men watch this video and realise that women only sometimes ejaculate when having an orgasm!”

Posted by Catherine on 6th Apr at 2:23AM (flag as inappropriate)
what is orgasmn?”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 5th Apr at 5:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
The only time i have an orgasm is when i am on top. I never seem to experience it any other position. Even then it wouldnt be very often.”

Posted by Pamela on 5th Apr at 8:09AM (flag as inappropriate)
i have had an organsm through oral sex, but never through sex,is there something i could try differently?”

Posted by Alex on 4th Apr at 9:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 13 and cant cum yet is this normal”

Posted by A on 4th Apr at 6:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
i think there is more than the actual orgasm. half the fun is the build up and yeah quickies are fun sometimes my best sexual experiences have been when its lasted a while and weve had fun doing it not just hurrying up to have an orgasm.”

Posted by dominique on 4th Apr at 4:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
Anna, I think this series of 'The Sex Education Show' has been inspiring! It has opened up younger generation's mind about REAL sex and REAL bodies while enlighting adults about porn and what thier children are actually watching. Maybe also a little about how it has changed over the decades..

On the first episode of your show, you introduced the campaign of 'Protect your Kids From Porn'. YES!. I have never been so relieved for a campaign in all my life (albeit only been 18 years!). The reason for this is; in the last unit of my Drama A level we performed a play called 'Masterpieces' by Sarah Daniels, which exploited porn industry and showed the objectification on women in porn. It showed the dark dark nasty side of porn, that made me -and the audience- cringe. It opened my eyes to things that i was unaware of, like snuff films ( murder in porn) and how the porn stars are treated. "Ive seen hundreds of them; little girls, young women, middle aged women, old women, with ripped vagina's, torn genitals multilated beyond recognition, i try not to think about it" this line is deeply disturbing and had came from a grown woman that had viewed porn, and so the meer idea that children aged just 11 have access to such explicit (not to mention illegal) material makes me extremily sick, angry and a little bit sad..

I am also glad that you showed the audience REAL porn stars, Showing the girls theyre not glamorous and sexy 100,000% of the time, and to show the guys..well they're real people that aren't up for it 24/7! It's thier job. You showed the real side to porn; the dangers, the ungratifying things they put up with and thier own view on sex as well. I think that the porn star's view on sex and porn was critical to your little documentary on Donna and Damien, as it taught many people in the UK that no emotion is involved in porn, and you shouldn't base your own sex and relationships on wht you see in porn. As like i said before this play shows a dark side of sex, in particular there is a monologue taken from a real porn star "by then i'd learnt that i was dirty and it was my fault... your body is your worth, and when it starts to go you've got no chance". This was the quote i thought of when you tried the 'porn star look' on the show as it made me realise 'even if the girls do dress like this and people think that they look great, as soon as they start to "loose it" thats it. They're gone.'

Moving away from porn... I also appreciate you teaching the students (and probally 80% of the people watching at home) about the anatomy of sex and the functions as sex 'education' taught in schools is.. well lets say its poor! It kinda made me feel good about myself as well knowing that not all women look the same, and even though i wish to do sex therapy in university (unfortunatly its only avalible as post grad study though) i had not seen many naked women apart from in porn, and so it really did make me feel more comfortable with myself. So THANK YOU!

Anna- and no doubt a wonderful team backing her- I think your doing a wonderful job and i fully support everything this show stands for. Also i think your hillarious in your quirky little way! haha :)
Alyson x”

Posted by Alyson on 4th Apr at 12:36AM (flag as inappropriate)
You stated that it is not possible for men to keep an erection and have an ejaculation soon after there first. However from my personal experience I have achieved the above on several occasions. In fact I have been informed by several women that they have been in relationships, of which their partners have been able to achieve the above mention, on numerous occasions.

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Posted by [No first name supplied] on 3rd Apr at 12:56AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 33,had a few girls, lot of insecurities due to porn. Thanks ,learned a lot.”

Posted by Dion on 2nd Apr at 10:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 21 and have had 5 sexual partners, yet I never had an orgasm with any of them during penatrative sex. I enjoy sex and it feels good, but I only ever have full orgasms during oral sex. I dont believe in porn many of the women are having orgasms, Im sure that nearly 60% of women dont have orgasms during penatrative sex. porn stars are lying!!!”

Posted by Gemma on 2nd Apr at 9:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
You know? Im SO glad I watched some of the videos about female orgasm, but at the same time I resent the fact that it is "normal" for a woman not to have an orgasm everytime we have sex. Im a 28 year old woman, who has only had 2 partners, both of them in short relationships: I suppose our connection wasn´t great, so I never had an orgasm when I was having sex with them, however, I find it very easy to have them on my own. I hope that when I find a guy that I really like I will be able to orgasm more easily, because I have a good sex drive, and the frustration of not achieving it... for me it puts a huge strain on the relationship!”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 7:50PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 20 and find it really hard to orgasm. i cum if im on top but only occasionally an its really annoying!! is there any adivce you can give to help?”

Posted by emily on 2nd Apr at 5:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
how do you know when you have had an orgasm?
I know what an orgasm is just dont really know when i have had one..
maybe i have not had one yet thats why i dont know so if thats how can i get my boyfriend to make me have one and reach my climax i would like to know thankyou”

Posted by fallon on 2nd Apr at 12:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 19, and have been sexually active for 3 years, yet i have never been able to have an orgasm with any of my sexual partners. All sex seems to do for me is cause me discomfort and pain, and i feel that im not doing it properly and not very good at it. Also every time i have had sex, i have not been sober, i can't seem to be intimate with a guy, unless im off my head. So as a result every one of my partners have been flings or one night stands, and this just makes me feel dirty and worthless, and i have had to have many internal examinations as a result. I just feel like i'm never going to be able to enjoy sex, or do it properly in a commited relationship, the thought scares the hell out of me. Whats wrong with me?? Then i have seen pornography clips where they make it seem so easy, and then it just makes me feel worse!”

Posted by Brooke on 2nd Apr at 12:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
achieving orgasm can take time and practice about finding out what works for you. it has taken me many years to get the most mind blowing ones of all but there are many kinds and what ever kind you have is right for you.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 12:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had sex with my partner at the age of 19 but i did not have an orgasm i have no idea why not. I am not going to the doctors because i am extremly embarrased. My penis is very small and my partners vagina was very hairy could this cause me not to have a orgasm?”

Posted by Stephen on 2nd Apr at 11:00AM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been having sex since I was 16 and am not sure if I have had an orgasm yet. How will i know if I have had one? Is there something wrong with me?”

Posted by Lauren on 2nd Apr at 7:27AM (flag as inappropriate)
Whenever my boyfriend and I have oral sex he always plays with my clit and gets me too that point where I feel like i'm going to burst but then I have this feeling that i have to pee.i always pee right before we have sex but whenever i get to enjoying him rubbing my clit and feel like i'm going to cum i also feel like i have to pee what could it be?”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 6:58AM (flag as inappropriate)
i had clitoral orgasms,but i never reach a vaginal one.i love to experiment with my partner to find out how to get one but i don't know what to do anymore...”

Posted by martha on 2nd Apr at 12:33AM (flag as inappropriate)
i have slept with different partners, i have tried different positions and different methods but have never experienced an orgasm. i have never faked one and i dont plan to. apparently trying to get an orgasm doesn't help just being as turned on as possible and enoying it really helps.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 12:13AM (flag as inappropriate)
i think you just gotta find the right person who you can relate to and trust enuf to feel comfortable enuf with that you both can experiment sexualy and find out what ya enjoy and getting there”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 11:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 17 years old and my boyfriend doesnt seam to be able to give me and orgasm. when i try to show him how i like it he just moans and says well do i not do it rightthen, i feel underpressure because i want as much plesure as hes getting but he thinks im being nasty if i say something. hes always telling me how he likes it but i rarely get an input on this, i just dont know how to tell him i dont enjoy it without hurting his feelings.”

Posted by chantelle on 1st Apr at 10:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
i really want to have sex with my boyfriend. but i cant because i feel like there is something holding me back, i think its cause i might be imbarased if i do something wrong through an orgasim.”

Posted by rebecca on 1st Apr at 10:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
I watched your programme after coming across it by accident, and I wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed it. I am a 40 yr old married mother of a 9 and 7 yr old. I think the way you have taken sex education into the schools is fantastic. I think it is very important to be open about sex, and it's related problems, so that we can all feel safe and normal. The more these issues are talked about, the safer younger people are from problems which can arise from too much secrecy. It is also very important to make young people feel normal, and help them to accept that the way they look and feel is sometimes very different from their peers.
Well done for having to guts to show it all. I would feel very happy to show my children this when they reach puberty!! ”

Posted by Sarah on 1st Apr at 9:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
how do you knw when your having an orgasm?”

Posted by Helen on 1st Apr at 9:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 23 years old and i find it quite easy to orgasm through clitoral stimulation, but i have never been able to orgasm through penetration, no matter how aroused i am and how good the sex feels.”

Posted by Katie on 1st Apr at 9:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been with my partner from the age of 16 till now 21 and I have never had an orgasum during sex this has worried me but i do understand that most woman can have this problem. It is hard when you see porn and how girls seem to find it easy to have a orgasum and I can't...

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Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 9:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
im worried of not performing 'well' on my first time what can i do?”

Posted by daniell on 1st Apr at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
Glad i have seen this video...all i get from my boyfriend is about female ejaculation and how i dont.....well at least that has now cleared and i feel a million times better”

Posted by Julie on 1st Apr at 9:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have had quite a few sex parnters but only one of them has acutly been able to give me a orgasm!!!!! and that wasnt even all the time!”

Posted by Victoria on 1st Apr at 9:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've been with my boyfriend for 14 months now, and we have sex regulary. I've never experienced an orgasm although what we do feels really good. I don't understand why? Is it normal? Am i doing something wrong?”

Posted by Gracey on 1st Apr at 9:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
how do i know when i have an orgasm?”

Posted by Rebecca on 1st Apr at 8:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
the presenter asked(sorry i dont know her name, but will find out) if she was more attractive when made up in the porn style look. well, personnally she looks morsae attractive before the make over, the more natural look, than after.
probabaly my tastes, but given the choice, i know which i`pick, she looked fantastic.”

Posted by mark on 1st Apr at 8:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I find that i can't orgasm durin sex at all. Is this something that i'm doin wrong ??”

Posted by Christy on 1st Apr at 4:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had never had an orgasm, despite having a 2 year sexually active relationship in my late teens. However, with my new boyfriend it's never been much of an issue. He's very patient and always asks for advice and feedback during foreplay. Importantly he understands that it might take a while for me to get to orgasm.”

Posted by Ellie on 1st Apr at 3:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
Is it true you can get womens condoms?”

Posted by Anne on 1st Apr at 2:24PM (flag as inappropriate)